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How to handle other kids constantly pushing DD

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Liverpoolgirl50 · 09/02/2024 18:30

DD is 19mo and it feels like other kids are constantly pushing her over. I almost accept it in a soft play where everyone is hyped up and a bit feral, but in the last 2 weeks she’s been pushed over in the library, park, soft play and at a birthday party.

It’s usually older kids, and it’s usually because she has a toy/ride they want, or she’s climbing the steps slowly etc. The majority of the time the parents aren’t anywhere to be found, and if the kids old enough I’ll ask them to please not push as she’s only little. It happened today, a 2 or so year old pushed her down the soft play steps, and to be fair the mum was quite mortified and did make her apologise but DD was just crying at this point and didn’t take much notice.

Am I being over sensitive? If I so much as see her put her arm out to push another kid I stop her and tell her explicitly we don’t do that. She goes to nursery 2 days a week and I understand that it’s probably different there, but when she’s with me it’s stopped before it happens.

She’s my first - is this just a part of it? I don’t want her to think that’s how you behave in a normal situation, but it happens almost every time we go out.

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Guavafish1 · 09/02/2024 19:41

I find it hard too... my baby is 12 month old and the other children push her and take her toys away too.

She also does put her hand in other small children's faces and I've seen her pushing others too. It's happens to quick for me to stop.

Most if the time a have to pick her up and take her away from that situation, as I don't like it.

VivaVivaa · 09/02/2024 19:41

2 and 3 year olds will push. They don’t have the impulse control to wait politely. I can assure you your DD will likely be rough with others on occasion when she is older. Not because she’s learnt the behaviour, but because she’s a toddler and that’s what they do. What matters is what the parents do in response to violence. DS went through a pushy phase at 2.5 and I was on him like a hawk. Removed from the situation and parent/other child apologised too. I think that’s all you can expect really. If parents nowhere to be seen it is absolutely okay for you to say to the child that they mustn’t push and must wait their turn. If they don’t despite you telling them, you have to remove your DD from the situation and accept there are some less adequate parents in the world.

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