I really don't want to look after my children today.........

[Lilliput]

I hate times like easter. Dh is a chef so when evryone else is off work for a holiday he is incredibly busy. I hate the question 'What have you got planned for the easter weekend?'. Stuff that I did have planned with the children is now not a good idea because it is so bloody cold here and likely to snow. I was going to go to a fun day at a stately home.
Ds is being bloody awkward and very moody this week. He is 3 and at times it is like walking on egg shells as to whether he is going to kick off. I took them out to lunch as atreat yesterday, met up with a friend at quite a child friendly place. He ate nothing(waste of bloody money, grrr) and was aggressive and moany. I had to just leave eventually, the beige mac brigade were tutting and giving me looks. Why should I try to do anything nice today?
Give me a lift I feel really tearful.

oh, sorry you are feeling down

FWIW, my Dh has to work every weekend and a lot of evenings, so he is working today, and is out at a corporate do tonight, so won;t be home until the early hours

i make sure i have something nice in for lunch, a film for the DCs to watch with popcorn in the afternoon, and usually do some arts & crafts with them and make it a cosy day at home. i don;t always like to go out when everyone else is going out as a family... a duvet day for all of you might be jsut what you need.

Sounds lovely, but I would really like a duvet day on my own.

I can empathise with your situation to a certain extent as my dp was a musician and was NEVER there on traditional celebrations like New Year's Eve etc. People used to say to me "Do you go to all his gigs?", not realising that it was work for him, not an evening out I could share.

Sorry you are feeling crap. Any chance of making a plan to celebrate with your dh after Easter?

Could you make sure that you do get a duvet day for yourself in the near future? Could you arrange it with your dp? Sounds like you are in need of some rest and relaxation.

I feel like such a cow moaning to dh as he works so hard for pretty crap money. Other people manage. I need to get a grip.

Well, I'm sure your dp knows that you work hard too! Is there anyone who could take the children for the day so you could share some quality time together? Or an evening out?

In the meantime I would eat some chocolate.

Why dont you get your DH to do contract catering/

Having a restaurant is such hard work and people do not realise it. If it is your own business too it is literally 7 days per week.

Your profile says you run the restaurant with your DH so why are you not working today?

We had 2 restaurants....one in Cheshire and one in Tuscany....we have now given it all up and DH is the new head chef for T5 at Heathrow and I am a SAHM!

Bliss!

Am sorry you are feeling crap.

lilliput, I know exactly how you feel. dh is a police officer and days off that others feel are standard family times are nothing of the sort for us. he was off yesterday but I was ill the whole day. He is late shift today but asleep this morning and tomorrow he is nightshift so will sleep the whole day on Monday too.

I just want to curl up in a duvet but know the day will be impossible if I don't do something with the kids too.

tuesday when the nursery opens low and behold dh will be off - typical

I need to update my profile. We gave up the restaurant in October and now he works in a small hotel basically doing pretty much exactly what he was doing before. He is a restaurant chef and would never entertain doing anything else for an easy life. Food and cooking are his one real passion in life and he is very talented. We live in rural scotland so you kind of have yo make your own work and the food scene around here is very limited. We went around the houses about what to do when we closed the restaurant but really after a few months he was desparate to get back behind the stove. In general so far things are working out (it's only been a month) but at times like easter I feel pretty low and I am desperate for some good weather and for ds to go start nursery. I have a job myself now working for a friend doing his admin. Boring but money and flexible.

just noticed you're southwest scotland, I'm north east fife otherwise we could have locked kids into a safe secure soft room and taken it in turns to referee!!

I can sympathise. My dh works for a supermarket and always works on a Saturday. I rarely go anywhere with the dc's then because it's busier with everyone else on their day off.