5 year old friendship trio how to deal?

[Lunalunamama]

Hello,
Not sure if this is the right place but my daughter is 5 and is in a Trio and sometimes she gets left out of the trio If there is only 2 seats and stuff in school. She is quite popular but seems to only want to hang with the two kids but the two kids seem closer.

What advice do you have?
Thank you
Luna x

Does it bother your dd? Does she notice and mention it? If not I’d just leave it and let her work it out. My youngest 2 dc wouldn’t be fussed about this in the slightest. They’d just sit somewhere else with someone else. With my eldest she might be upset as she finds friendships more difficult. With her I’d acknowledge her feelings but try to reassure her she’ll be fine and perhaps discuss things she can do next time.
But I have learnt that adults can inadvertently cause children to be anxious if we focus on things that they might not have been worried about so whatever you do don’t make a big deal about it! X

At this age your DD is learning about how social interaction works. It's better to let things play out if you can, unless she's really upset in which case you should talk to the teacher. My DD was in a very tricky trio in primary school, but she learnt a lot about friendships from it (she still talks about it) and her secondary school friendships have been great (she's 16yo now).

I also recommend doing activities outside school. My DD has a group of netball friends who are separate from her school friends, this can be really good if things are tricky in school.

Thank you for replying, She gets upset when it happens and I reassure her it's okay to feel that way but there is other kids to play with also. I am sure she will work it out just think it's hard to see :( x