Do you RSVP on kids birthday invites?

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We sent out 8 invites last week and have only heard back from one. I’m petrified my little boy (turning 4) will have no nursery friends there. His two closest have confirmed but that was directly with me before invited went out.

Do you tend to RSVP if you can’t make it? I’m considering chasing them all up next week. Party is in 2 weeks time.

Yes I do. The last party we went to had a deadline to reply which I thought was a good idea. I wouldn't be surprised if you got a rush of replies the day before. I try to reply as soon as possible as I need to discuss dietary requirements

I absolutely RSVP. Have you got the parents numbers? Just ask.

Yes. Why wouldn’t I?

What RSVP date did you give?
If you didn't then that is a rookie error you won't make again!

Yes, but it does sometimes take me a week to remember to check my diary and then remember to reply.

Did you put a deadline for replies?

Three weeks isn't much notice for a party though?

Don't fret, and if it's only two weeks away, feel free to give them a nudge to reply.

I always RSVP, but lots don't and will require chasing... not a criticism, sometimes life admin is hard to stay on top of 🤷🏻‍♀️ Send a polite reminder - say you need to know for venue numbers/food prep

Thanks! We gave an RSVP date of one week before the party. Hoping that way I could manage my sons expectations! But, I always get back to people ASAP.

Yes. I'd assume no attendance if you didn't rsvp. It's also really rude

Chasing is tricky, as I don’t know or have contact details for all of them! The invites were given out by our sons nursery.

You can't/shouldn't really chase before the RSVP date, but if in hindsight you feel you have set it too late then an apologetic prompting would be OK. Kind of 'hi, sorry I know we havent' got to the RSVP date yet but ...'

I rsvp (well, past tense now really as youngest is 11!) As soon as I've confirmed if they can attend. Which might not be straightaway, as DHs work dates used to change short notice. Fortunately when mine were little this was a common scenario and siblings were welcome.

If the rsvp date hasn't past i would think it was rude to chase if you have to know earlier then the RSVP should have been earlier

If the date hasn't passed you don't need to worry. If you haven't heard by the date, pop a short note in the following day with a reminder of the details.

Ok! I will wait until the date then find a way to chase those whose details I don’t have.

I rsvp at the deadline 🤦🏻‍♀️ the times I've done it straightaway I've forgotten about it and missed the party (awful memory)

I found that most people replied the few days before my son's party, presumably to see if anything else comes up in the meantime. If there's an app that the nursery use, I'd put a generic message to all the parents in your sons class reminding them that all children are invited and to confirm attendance by X date.

I always RSVP straight away as know I will forget otherwise!

We gave out invites to DD's party about six weeks in advance, didn't give a specific RSVP date, and got replies ranging from straight away to the day before and everything in between.

I always RSVP, usually straight away so I can let the parent know either way and to put it on the calendar so i know how our weeks pan out.

People that don't rsvp or wait til the last minute bloody annoy me. Its usually people that don't have their own party or think they're the royal family expecting to be inundated with invites to various events!

For those that say they forget, that's a lazy excuse. Write it on a calendar or diary. Its really not that difficult.

Did they just go in nursery bags? As there’s a chance they haven’t been seen if that is the case!

Oh dear, maybe you need a diary, or a calendar??

I always do because it boils my piss when people don't

@Princesspollyyy tried that! Kept forgetting to look at it 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think a lot of people don't understand what RSPV means so only reply if going but it's inconsiderate to not reply I think. Maybe send a polite reminder on the deadline to let you know either way so you can cater for numbers!

I always do, but I’ve noticed other people don’t have that consideration back when I send out invites. People are lazy with things like that these days. I found only the people who could come to my DCs parties replied.

From MN it seems you'll get people who don't reply, then turn up on the day with extra kids (including siblings and siblings' friends!).