What do your 14 year old boys do.

[jmh740]

What do you boys do after school or at weekends?
How often do they go out? How long do they spend gaming?
Trying to establish if ds is an average teen boy or not without giving too much away to influence answers.

No gaming allowed here Mon-Thurs. usually spends too long on his phone, will do whatever homework/study is needed (bare minimum). Usually has at least an hour of an activity, swimming, running, football and MMA training. Doesn't see friends really at all after school any socialising is done at weekend. But he would happily spend his whole day on his phone mindlessly scrolling sadly.

My son has just turned 15 in the last month. He is quite busy - paper round 6 days a week, works on a market stall on Saturdays, stem club Friday, he is just starting his d of e silver which involves volunteering at Park run Saturday and hiking some Sundays. He has just joined the gym too and going twice a week. He plays games most days, but not for long periods. He does see friends but it's usually walking into town for coffee straight from school then back home, or sometimes the park in nice weather.

Volunteers 2 hours on Saturday for Duke of Edinburgh.
Sports 2 evenings a week.
Scouting once a week.
Lots of gaming.
Probably 1/2 day on Sunday doing homework, plus odd hours in the week.

Ds is 15. He does football training twice a week and a match on Sundays. Has to do one hour homework each night. Also does a gym workout for 30 minutes every day. He’s fitness mad!
However he does have the obligatory phone addiction that all of them seem to have 🙄

Mine has after school clubs or scouts most evenings and sport both weekend mornings. He mixes other time between online (coding or YouTube), playing or making up board/card games, and watching tv with us. Seems to have found a reasonable balance now, after too much screen time last year.
He only occasionally goes out to meet friends, and then just at the weekend.

Maybe allow him to game then…better than ‘mindlessly scrolling’ surely?!

Mine doesn't game really but does spend a lot of time on his phone. He doesn't have any clubs and meets with friends every other weekend on average.

DS2 is 14. He plays football for a club - training twice a week and a match at the weekend. He's just qualified as a referee so he also referees a match some weekends. Cricket in the summer. He plays in the school band and orchestra and a band outside school. Practises his instruments (a bit - should be more!). Homework. Games a bit and spends quite a lot of time on YouTube and similar.

My DS14 doesn't go to a local school (grammar school) so no socialising in person but always on his phone and games everyday with or without his friends online.

Volunteers 6 hours on a Saturday.

Not really sporty but has to do something come March for D of E

Once in a blue moon will meet up in person with friends

As long as they are happy and your relationship is great- do whatever works for you.