4 year old being hit at school

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Hi

I have NC for this.
My 4 year old daughter is being hit at school by a boy in her class. I've asked for a meeting with the teacher but I've never been in this situation so would appreciate advice.

There were similar issues with this boy at preschool and on 2 occasions she came home with red marks where he'd hurt her. Now they are in reception together. In the last couple of months she's mentioned being hit or kicked about 4 times and I have raised it with staff already. However last week this child won the class trophy and he hit my daughter with it. It has a heavy square marble type base and this could have been much worse if he'd aimed for her head.

I've asked to speak to the teacher to understand what the school are doing to prevent this happening in future. A couple of mum friends have also had problems with this child and it seems that he does also hit others.

I'm not sure it's actually done out of malice but it isn't acceptable. Just after some advice on discussions with school.

Thanks

Has the Teacher agreed to speak to you? Is there one Reception class or two? If it's two I would ask for this child to be moved to another class, DD shouldn't have to move because she's been bullied.

I'd also look up the school's bullying policy online, read it, print it off, nightlight the relevant bits and take it with you to the meeting.

*Has the Teacher agreed to speak to you? Is there one Reception class or two? If it's two I would ask for this child to be moved to another class, DD shouldn't have to move because she's been bullied.

I'd also look up the school's bullying policy online, read it, print it off, nightlight the relevant bits and take it with you to the meeting.*

No response yet as I sent the latest email when this came out over the weekend. The school didn't tell me about it, DD did.
2 reception classes however they mix for most of the day.

It’s awful when you’re child is being hurt at school by another child and school seemingly do nothing. Keep pushing and go to the Head if need be. This is not acceptable and they need a plan in place. Would you want her moved to another class if possible?

This happened to my Dd when young. I’m not advocating this as it wasn’t the right thing to do but after my DD came home with the slap mark still on her face I confronted the child the next day. Told him never to touch my DD again. I was aware there were issues at home so no point talking to the parents. School was useless.

I think DD would be devastated if she had to move classes as she has a very good friend in class with her. She'd also still see a lot if this boy, at least until year 1 when classes are separated more.

I think you're doing the right thing by asking to speak to her Teacher. Also make it clear that if anyone is moved it should be him, the one who is physically attacking your DD.

Ask the Teacher how she is going to ensure it doesn't happen again. They don't seem to be taking the situation very seriously so far. Whose idea was it to give a child that known to be violent towards other children a bloody weapon!

If you're not happy with what the Teacher says, write a letter to the Head and copy on the Governors listing the incident and ask how they are going to protect your DD from the bully in the future.

Whose idea was it to give a child that known to be violent towards other children a bloody weapon!

Those were almost my exact words to DH.

Thank you for your advice. Really hoping we can sort this out for DD. DH wants to have self defence conversations but she's just so young.

Take it up with the Head if you're not getting anywhere with the teacher. He/she is responsible for behaviour in the school. Face to face is better than email.
If that doesn't change things, then contact Governors, but it really shouldn't have to go that far.

You'll need to be assertive about your - obviously reasonable - expectations of safeguarding your DD. The current situation isn't acceptable.

That is terrible. How can a 4/5 year old possibly that violent?
Wonder where he learned it from

And wonder how he won an award with such horrible behaviour.

Op, it’s always ‘ask what the school are doing…’ on these threads but unless they keep them in separate rooms, there will always be the chance for him to hurt her. Do you have a class WhatsApp with his parents in?

I think the poster was saying the boy should move, not your dd