4yo and 6m old, I've got the flu and we're stressed to the max, please help me feel better!

[oramge]

So as the title reads, and on top of this DH was made redundant from his job and we've been waiting for a week to hear back from an interview he attended the Friday before last. They promised he'd hear on Friday and he didn't so we've spent the entire weekend feeling deflated and very money conscious on that front.

I've been in bed since Thursday evening, I've not eaten and I'm starting to feel very low. I am someone who can get low so I'm trying not to let myself get pulled in too deep. I think it's the flu but I'm concerned it might've turned into a chest infection because I'm starting to get that weird body feeling you get when you're infected and need antibiotics.

As well as the above, my 3 day a week job is a joke, I am given way too much work and I'm stressed to high heaven.

And, my 4 year old DD, who is a highly sensitive, loud and whirlwind type, is acting up CONSTANTLY. The baby is pretty good but he obviously needs A LOT of attention.

The one saving Grace is DH has gone into survival mode and is just getting everything done but he's not really even available to chat to me so I'm starting to feel really sorry for myself.

Sounds stupid but I'm thinking to myself, can this get any worse than this?

Very hopeful bump

Sympathy OP. Things feel way worse when you're laid up with illness and can't get any fresh air etc.

Just concentrate on getting over the virus and try not to think beyond that. TV for the four year old and DH can manage the baby. Keep up fluids. Life is full of ups and downs but you have each other and you will manage.

Sounds like a really shitty time. I hope you feel better soon.
We had it once where DH didn’t hear back within the expected timeframe after an interview but it turned out the person was off after a bereavement and he did get the job. Fingers crossed it’s good news and he hears back tomorrow

Jesus, I had to check I hadn't written this as I'm in exactly in the same position. Then realised you have a six month old, and mine is 6 YEARS. all ill. Husband redundant and waiting on job offer. The only difference is he's in bed as the cold as triggered his long COVID and asthma.

Having a small baby and an older child is the hardest thing ever. It started to get easier at a year old and then gets quite nice at 2 years. Being ill on top of everything is crap though. I would just try to all snuggle on the sofa with everyone, TV, snack and convenient food. If dh is being active around the house, send him out for food and medicine or to occupy the older child.

I hear you op, I’ve missed three days of work , I am also sick with a bad cough and awful viral symptoms. I have three kids and they are a lot older than yours but still lots of work tbh . I’m definitely getting low too, I also have no support network outside of my dh and my work is “part-time” but not really as loads of additional hours, it’s further education so I work everyday up to pick up and then again some evenings , there’s Fck all childcare where we are tbh . It’s hard and I find myself feeling vulnerable and overwhelmed when sick with kids tbh (my dh is great ) . I understand about that low feeling, we’ve also had problems with extended family causing trouble, instead of helping both our families cause with when we are just about holding things together.
I am just going to focus on getting better and trying to regain my strength and then focusing more on looking after my health a bit more and try to find ways to help us.

*cause trouble

Thank you so much ladies for the replies, you have honestly helped me feel a bit better. Life can just feel so tough at times can't it? And when you're in the middle of it, it can feel really overwhelming.

@Luckydog7 I really hope your husband gets the job and gets over his illness quickly.. and thanks for giving me a little bit of hope that things might be a little easier when the baby is 1. At the moment I feel like anything must be easier than this!

@Isthisit2 sorry you're feeling crap too. 3 kids must be tough no matter what age. I also need to take this opportunity to start focusing on looking after my health better etc, I think I'm gonna start taking vitamins and eat a bit better, but it's so hard when you're just focusing on getting through the day with 2 kids. I know what you mean about just about holding things together. Hug from me.

@oramge Thanks we should be fine, He works in IT and we are in a city with a big tech industry so its just a matter of time.