So we just had my partners colleague and partner come over with their 4weeks old baby. We don’t know them well but we were passing on our old baby things for them. All afternoon I saw complete red flags as parents and I don’t know how to address it to them as again we don’t know them well.
1)The mom mentioned giving the baby tastes of sauces and food at 4weeks such as bbq sauce and egg etc.
2) the dad made the babies formula with cold water from the kettle and when I mentioned he can boil it he said it was warm enough. I checked and the kettle was cold. I thought it had to be hot to sterilise the milk powder?
3) they added powder before water and “always add extra water to hydrate her” I thought this was also bad for them so young
4)they were feeding the baby lying down until she was choking on milk. The teet fully in the babies mouth. Then tipped her backwards whilst choking
5)aggressively bouncing the baby with no head support to “burp her” and aggressively rubbing her back and I mean aggressively
6)telling the baby the shut up when it was murmuring. In a really mean tone
7) over all being quite heavy handed and sitting her up etc again no support to her head.
I can’t quite explain it but as a mom I just kept getting this wrong vibe about them or they’re knowledge on a new baby.
my heart is aching incase something happens to this baby. I don’t think they’re purposely being this way or if they just don’t know. I’m sat here with a heavy heart and I don’t know how to address it with them or if I even should. I’m honestly not trying to shame them and want to help.