My ex and his mum are judging me.

[Babygirlmum]

My friend exes mum is judging me for giving my DD a bottle of fresh milk for comfort, she is 21 months old and she enjoys a bottle of fresh milk for comfort, my ex mentioned, about the fact she still has a bottle of milk, I know it's his mum in his head judging as she is such a judgemental person, am I in the wrong for giving my DD a bottle of milk that she really enjoy?

Children have drink milk for many centuries, what could be the issue?

I don't know, he has mentioned it a few times and feel as though they are judging me for it.

At 22 months she doesn’t need a bottle and it’s not great for her teeth, but no problem with milk from a sippy cup

No, of course you're not in the wrong, it's milk not tequila! Great for children's teeth and bones. Is their problem that it is in a bottle?

@LauderSyme it could be that it's in a bottle however she really enjoys the bottle and gets comfort from it, I'm not going to take this away from her just yet, she have skippy cups to for juice and water, my exes mum is very judgemental over absolutely anything at all.

Ignore them. You are doing nothing wrong.

I don't think you should take the bottle off dd either. She is still a small infant, there is no need to deprive her of her comfort and security.

I had older relatives who were judgemental about how long I breastfed ds for. They thought he was too old for it. I felt uncomfortable being judged by them but not enough to change what I thought was best for ds.

There's a difference in breast & bottle for their teeth.

@Babygirlmum she's you ex's mother. You don't have to care what she thinks!! Your child, your business.

the only thing I'd say is that it's really not good for her teeth/mouth (shape/growth) to be sucking on a bottle still. But if you're cleaning her teeth properly & it's one bottle a day and not being just sucked on all day, then I'd just gently try to substitute it for other comforts.

watering down the milk is one way to wean her off the bottle. Make it less enjoyable until she decides it's not that nice anymore. Give her full fat milk in her sippy cup to up the enjoyment of having it in there.

But as for his mother 💁🏻‍♀️

My daughter was still on formula at that age prescribed by a paediatrician /dietician. At 2 we moved to oat milk I lidded beaker in the e evening, open cups in the day and at 3 open cups of oat milk in the evening and over night.

YABU for caring.

Who gives a shit what they think? You'll feel much freer in life when you don't care what randoms think or do.

Mine had milk before bed till they were 5 or 6… probably in a bottle till 2 ish. One bottle a day and they didn’t take too long with it. They are young adults now, neither have issues with teeth and the only bottles they are interested in now have beer in. I probably got judgment from someone… did not give it headspace.

Both my children LOVED their comforting bottle of warm milk - had it til they were 4 ... their teeth are fine, neither have had fillings (15&11 years old) - they still love milk now and have 2-3 glasses every day, usually with meals which suits them and me to help neutralise acids
Ignore and do what your child needs