Pressing charges against my DS

[Mariah24]

I have two sons (both young adults) one as stolen from the other and sold the items to a shop. These items are worth around 4k. Police won’t intervene in getting the items back unless charges are made against DS. The DS that stole the items has ADHD & Asperger’s. Was I wrong in telling my other son to press charges.

Adhd and aspergers doesnt make you exempt from the law.

I don’t think I’d have done this but you’re not wrong to

It’s up to the son who has had his stuff stolen. How badly does he want it back, versus the resulting issues in the family of pressing charges against a sibling. I’d try to support either way but obvs the son who did the stealing needs to explain/pay back, etc.

It's up to the person who was stolen from 🤷 the issues you've mentioned don't make someone above the law though, theft is theft - and theft to sell for £££ is pretty bad from a family member.

Where's that money now? Why did he do it?

It doesn’t, but obviously he thinks and acts differently. But I agree it doesn’t make you exempt.

I'm not a lawyer, but I thought that although "pressing charges" is a commonly used phrase, it has no standing. Victims don't make decisions to prosecute.

I once tried to bring charges against my own dc for criminal damage. Police refused to get involved..

No if you think it will make your son think that he could actually get a conviction if he did it to someone else outside the family and it stops him.

However with the families I know and known who have adult children stealing stuff from other siblings either they end up cutting ties with the thief/thieves or they ignore it completely. If they cut ties the thief has other issues e.g. drug addiction and normally they have stolen much smaller amounts of money/stuff from other family members.