Long story hopefully short. I am wanting to know if anyone has seen this kind of thing before, has any advice on how to handle it or what to ask of school.
My ds is 8. He was very good friends with a boy in his class. The friendship 'ended' suddenly with the other boy screaming at ds that he hated him and was sick of him. I witnessed this, there was no big incident beforehand. The mum started blanking me.
We have asked our ds to find other friends and keep his distance. But it's hard as they have mutual friends.
The boy has told others in their class that he doesn't like my DS. The boy joined in with some older children (known to pick on a lot of kids) in saying mean things to my ds. Sometimes the other child behaves like my ds is his friend but he then suddenly flips over tiny things (schools words) and then spends time ranting my ds, involving other children to be on his side, telling others that my ds is mean. Mum of boy has been in to school to accuse my ds of bullying. School explained her child's behaviours.
Thing is it has been 6 months and it is still happening. Today my ds and the boy were in a big group playing. They have rules for a game. The boy breaks the battle rules and another child calls him out (it's all laughing and joking). The boy breaks the rules again, this time to my ds. My ds calls him out on it and the boy gets incredibly angry kicks some of the equipment (small but made of metal) at my son. My son is hurt and cries. A friend comes to help. Boy hangs around saying tell on me, I don't care.
My questions are -
Has anyone has experience where a child really hates yours?
What is this? And what can I do?
What can I expect school to do?
This is exhausting.