Hello all, I have a son who is soon to be 9. His dad and I dad split when he was 5 months old and I've never claimed CSA from him. He isn't the nicest person in the world and we used to argue a lot for the first sort of 3 years of being split. He was constantly sending me abuse via text so I've just never asked him for a penny. Tell I lie, when my son was about 5 I asked him to contribute towards football lessons and he went off on one about how he wasn't paying for unnecessary things and if I couldn't afford it just not to do it, (baring in mind it was him who suggested putting him into football)
anyway, like I said he's contributed nothing up untill now to his sons upbringing. He does see him for 5 hours a week. Well like everyone the cost of living is really hitting us hard and although me and my partner both work we're struggling. Would I be wrong to claim csa out of blue after 8 and a half years? We don't argue anymore I just drop my son off and collect with pretty much no words said between us (which is how I want it too remain) the stress of abuse from him I can't cope with it right now. I just feel like he's gonna go mental. And I'm scared he will try and go for 50/50 custody to get out of it. I don't want to lose my son over money. But at the same time why should he get out of paying for his child, and my son miss out because I'm scared to poke the bear.