How to co parent with a broken family

[Babygirlmum]

Tips and ways to co parent with someone you have past traumas with, me and my ex can not co parent at all we just do not get along, we always manage to argue and I need to find ways to co parent properly and manage well, he's put me through a lot in the past, so having to see him to hand DD over and co parent with him really effects me mentally, and I do not have anyone to hand DD over as I have lost both my patents quite recently, I have friends however they won't always be here to do it, I don't know what is best, I want the best for DD however he hasn't seen her in a while and also DD cry's when she goes with him, to the point recently he couldn't take her as she screamed that much, does anybody know why this is? She will not even go to him, she screams straight away him even holding her.

I think there are a few issues here. First you not feeling able to coparent with him- I get this as my ex continues to terrify me. My only advice here is to google grey rock and remember it's for your daughter's benefit to see her dad. If he's trying to control you through contact use a coparenting app and document everything separately but never let him see you upset.

Re your daughter, there's either a genuine reason she's upset, she's super attached to you or she's feeding off your energy at you finding contact so difficult. How old is she? Do you talk with excitement about her time with daddy or do you think she picks up on your anxiety? Do you have any genuine reasons to worry about her when she's with her dad?