SINGLE MAMS HELP!

[Claudia789]

Hello all,

So my child is now 6 and we live a happy life just the two of us, her Dad wants nothing to do with her, he doesn’t pay or have any contact with my child at all. I have always kept this open to him but he’s never wanted to and we are happy just the two of us.

Recently, she’s started asking more and more about her Dad. If we can call/FaceTime him and loads of other questions. I answer those I can but feel like I’m just palming her off with the talking to/meeting him questions.

I don’t know what to do! What can I say to her that she can understand she has a Dad but he chooses not to see her or want to have anything to do with her without causing her pain? Has anyone else been through this, what helped? I understand she’s curious, and rightly so, but I just don’t know what to say anymore.

Any help appreciated. TIA

I'm dreading this day. For me, I will tell DS he was too poorly to be a dad. He's an addict with mental health issues. You could say he was not ready to be a dad, so you can't call him etc because that is not what he wants. Explain all families are different some have two mums, one mum, two dads, one dad. Emphasise all that love her.

Yeah I get this a lot with my kids as well, well my oldest mainly. Haven’t got the answers though sorry, hopefully someone has. It’s hard for kids to understand why their parent doesn’t want to see them.