Estranged father wants family contact what is the best next move?

[4658Lou]

4 years after a divorce father wants to be in young teenage daughter life again but has specifically ask about reconnecting certain family members but hasn’t mentioned himself reconnecting this is confusing and I don’t know what to do. The daughter will be spoken to but the motives I can’t tell, this family completely abandoned the daughter after a divorced

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Ask your daughter if she wants to reconnect with these relatives? But don't ask her until you've spoken to them yourself and explored why they cut contact, why they want contact now and what their commitment is.

So he doesn’t want to reconnect, but his family do. Have you spoken to your daughter to ask what she wants, as it will be her choice, but they cannot make her see them, unless you have specific concerns about the family members.

If the child is a young teenager, it will be completely their choice.

The obvious thing for estranged family to do is to start writing or emailing via you. See what the reaction is, and try to build up a relationship from there. But if the child's reaction is to be uninterested in rekindling a relationship, then you do nothing. It has to be their choice.

I don't understand. Who wants to reconnect with her? The title is that the father does, but your post says everyone in the family except him, does.

@saraclara yes sorry to clarify the father has asked about family members but not himself.. but with her being young teen this wouldnt this been impossible to do without his involvement I’m not sure? And if so why wouldn’t the family just reach out by my email why him, just seems odd