Why did you want children?

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I know that some people have the biological urge to have children but if you previously never wanted kids and then did end up having them, what made you want them?

Just biological clock. Logically, it makes no sense, children drain your energy, time and money, no one would have them for fun!

Because I didnt want to not have them.

As above! Didn't want not to have them and figured might regret it at a point in time it was too late to change our minds! Got one, will stick with one and forever glad we were lucky enough to have one when we finally decided to give it a go.

Never thought one way or another about children.
Then met and fell in love with DH and it became important to try to create a baby and a family together.

saw it as a life experience I wanted to have done.

knew I could provide an excellent home for a child and wanted to share all the fun things with them

love all my family members a lot and thought having another one is a positive thing.

I don't remember ever not wanting children. I always knew I would some day have children- barring any biological reason or not meeting a man and falling in love.

I didn't really give it a second thought. I just trusted that one day it would happen for me.

I've never really wanted children as a general thing, it was only when I met DH that I felt I wanted his children. If I'd never met him I don't think I would have had any (on my own with IVF or with another man). It was also at the right stage of life for me as we were financially comfortable I would be able to be a sahm, which suited my lifestyle. I wouldn't have wanted to have children if it meant juggling ft work and school runs, or struggling on a low/middle income.

I felt like I had a lot of love to give

Turned 30 then something went off inside me that I needed to have a baby, I was single at the time. Met husband at 32, arrived then had 2 kids together by 38, I never wanted kids before I was 30,

I never wanted them until me and DH got together and I saw how much of a wonderful father he was and it made me want us to be parents together. Unfortunately we are not yet successful and had 4 MC but we are still trying!

Just to add im 27 and never wanted them until we st

Until we started trying last year **

Some lovely reflections here. I've never felt the impulse to have children so can't relate but it's fascinating to hear other people's insights. I hope it happens for you @teap0t13

A sense of responsibility I think.
I was adamant that I was going to not have children, I was aware that I would struggle to have both children and a career because of my health.
I wasn't prepared to bring up children to live in poverty like I had grown up in.

I then fell pregnant at 16. I didn't want an abortion, but I became painfully aware that adoption would carry heartache for both of us. I didn't want her to grow up not feeling like she was enough to be loved by her parents...and I was worried she may have not had the love in her life that she should have had.
So I kept her. Scariest, but best decision I've ever made in my life.

She was 16 last month, she didn't grow up in poverty, we have a lovely relationship and she's a really lovely girl who's well liked, with a bright future ahead of her. She's going to study automotive engineering when she leaves school.
I'm so proud of her.

Hit 30 and I’d ‘done’ everything I’d wanted to do.

Got a good position at work, been travelling, bought a house, got married.

For years I didn’t want kids at all, but it reached the point I wanted to do something a bit different from going to the pub, nice restaurants, good holidays.

Like others, I didn’t want kids in the abstract (I still don’t like other peoples kids) but I wanted a family with DH and for us to share the experience together.

I originally didn't want children but changed my mind because of my niece! Growing up I loved swimming bit after awhile it just didn't have the same appeal. But I came over to my sister's house one day and my niece asked me to go swimming with her and I realized she made swimming fun again! It wasn't just that she made all the little simple things in life that us adults take for granted fun again. That was when I knew that becoming a mother might be hard but it would be worth it. 🙂

I was ambivalent until I met DH then I wanted us to create a family together.