I’ve posted many times on here about leaving my verbally abusive partner which I did months back and my life has been exponentially more enjoyable.
DS is with him through the week as his nursery is closer and I have him Wednesdays and weekends. Lots has happened that’s made me want to take back my son and that’s a whole other ramble but TLDR after taking yesterday off to look after a poorly baby, being “kindly” invited to spend the day at his (so my son wasn’t being moved around too much when he was ill) I was just shouted at by him the entire day. It ending up with him smoking weed later on that evening and not even telling me so I’ve decided I’ve had enough and I want my child back.
I honestly don’t know how stuff is going to pan out but I’m interested in any logistical advice and what to expect in other people’s experiences. He’s a very angry man so I’m prepared for a load of verbal abuse, parents getting involved etc. because he can’t handle his own fights, banging on the door, police being called.
Day to day I’d like to keep my son in the same nursery but his dad usually does pick ups, like what the hell do I tell nursery? I feel sick thinking about it. I guess when I do drop off Monday I’ll have to ask to talk to someone?
Obviously I’ll have to sort stuff out with work and nursery hours eventually. But I’ve reached a point and I refuse to give him back until he stops drinking, smoking and his flat is tidy.
Has anyone else successfully navigated this. Is there anything I should be aware of be prepared for or do they tend to favour the mother? We have no written agreement on anything. I’m petrified