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4 month old, normal attachment?

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LeMoax · 26/01/2024 11:48

Wondered if I could get some outside perspective.

I have a 4 month old DS. I self admit he is a PFB! He is exclusively breastfed, and wakes around 2 or 3 times a night. I do all the nights during the week solo. I am tired but I have good support. I catch up on sleep when I can during the day. My husband once or twice a week (depending on if he is working a 6 day week or not) will have him for the night with expressed bottles to give me a night in the spare room. If he is working from home and DS is napping he will have him in the sling so I can have a nap. Husband cooks all the meals.

So I have a good bond with DS but I am tired despite this support. I think this is probably making me a bit loopy. I don’t know if this is combined with hormones. I don’t like the idea of anyone else looking after him. My mum has had him for the odd hour while I’m in the house but I can’t really relax. When my in-laws visit (who I don’t have a great relationship with) and they snuggle up to him I can feel my blood boil. I hate handing him round to family members for cuddles. I know I probably sound nuts.

So here’s my question. Am I “too” attached? Should I be forcing myself to let my mum and in laws look after him so I can catch up on sleep and be a bit more rational?

I feel I can’t see the wood from the trees.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 26/01/2024 11:51

You can’t be too attached to your baby. He’s only tiny, how you feel is normal. Don’t force yourself to do anything differently. You’ll probably find you relax a bit as he gets bigger and you get more used to having him.

UnravellingTheWorld · 26/01/2024 13:55

I think this is a perfectly normal reaction, but it would do you good to have the occasional hour totally free from the baby. Can your mum take him out now and then so you can relax in peace?

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