My ex and I are currently living together but separately. My son seems to be taking it quite hard (I’ve told him that none of it is his fault and we love him whatever happens).
i went into the school the other day and his teacher told me that he has been quite defiant and quite emotional lately. The defiant behaviour has been reading its head before the separation. The other day at school DS was asked to put some chairs away, he sulked and didn’t do it. He then turned around and said that he would put them away and got some positive praise. He has also been saying no to the teachers when they’ve asked him to do things. The teacher is going to get the senco to work with him.
The teacher suggested some play dates with other kids and as he gets on so we’ll with a friend he’s always had, I asked her mum about having a play date. they have always been inseparable and he said that she is his wife.
She replied that Her DD doesn’t want to have a play date with DS because he hits her and lies. I was so apologetic and said I was so disappointed to hear this and absolutely don’t tolerate this type of behaviour. Her mum is obviously looking out for her DD and I completely accept that. I’ve contacted the teacher to get to the bottom of it.
i spoke to ex about it and he said that the friend could be making it up and that everyone is so sensitive these days. Apparently he is just being a boy and maybe he needs to play with boys instead. He’s always been a chauvinist when it comes to talking about men and women and he lacks integrity, lies himself and never takes accountability for his actions. I’m worried that DS might turn out like him.
any suggestions would be welcomed.