struggling with day to day life

[Chocostarfish]

Hi everyone

Im a terrible communicator in real life so hoping by opening up on here someone will be able to offer some advice.

i have a 2 year old and a 4 month old and only in the last few weeks have started to really struggle (just to point out i dont think im depressed)

my baby is up maybe 6 or 7 times a night (always has been) and im absolutely exhausted. husband works shifts and is doing lots of overtime at the min so is rarely here to help with the hands on stuff, when he is here hes away to the gym daily or out for a long run. he also sleeps in the spare room and im breastfeeding so the nighly wakenings are all up to me. as are the early mornings because hes tired from his shift work.

im back to work a few days a week and its all thats keeping me sane at the moment. im finding the days at home with the kids a real struggle, i have such a short fuse which is so unlike me (with the husband mainly, never the kids).

i used to be a keen walker but between the weather being terrible and the kids kicking off in the pram i just dont go out anymore.

can anyone offer any advice to help get me through the days? i have a few friends with kids who i see once or twice a month, the rest either have no kids or theirs grew up a long time ago so i feel like i never see anyone either :(

Tell your DH that he needs to pull his weight more.

Who has the kids while you work?

My mum does. Which im very grateful for, although i never ask her to help outside of that as i feel its unfair!

I'd be on a short bloody fuse too if my H spent all his time running or at the gym while I was lumbered with two kids that wake constantly. He needs to step up the lazy arse. No way I'd put up with that.

You're working as well - bloody hell. I'd refuse to go back to work if this is the situation.....how can you possibly work and be awake all night. FF's.

This sounds really tough, I'm so sorry. For your husband, I'm not sure 'tired from shift work' is a sufficient excuse to not do early mornings when you're being woken 6-7 times a night. Especially if he's got the energy to do long runs etc. Can you ask him to help there as a starting point?

It's so tough with this weather too - getting outside is difficult. Are there any indoor stay and plays near you you could head to? I always find sounding off to other parents there helpful!

Your husband is the problem. What is he playing at?
You need to have an open and honest conversation with him.