Expressing emotions/feelings

[Tiddlesem]

This might sound silly, im really not sure what is the norm and just wanted to get others thoughts and experiences.

My nearly 3 nearly 4 year old doesn't really share her emotions or feelings with us. For example if she is in pain she can't really communicate what it is that is wrong with her. Like she has never said she has a pain in her head or a pain in her stomach for instance.
But more importantly she doesn't really tell us anything about nursery. For instance I have spoken to some moms of friends from her class who have told me about how their child told them they were upset about something a friend did or said or something that happened in school. My daughter doesn't tell us anything about school. She doesn't share anything about her friends or the teachers.

Maybe this is completely normal at her age. Is it just her personality maybe. I just would love for her to share a bit more with us. Today she said she didn't want to go into nursery and tonight has asked can she stay home tomorrow. She isn't saying why. Im just wondering if anyone has experience of the same with their child?

We did and my DD doesn't have the capability to express how she's feeling.

By that age her speech was fairly normal but I wish that someone at the time would have told me about this progress checker and the 4 year socisl & emotional ages & stages

I would expect at nearly four that she would be able to communicate if she was in pain and where that was. Talking about school really differs ime, some will give you a rundown of the entire day and others won't mention anything unless really probed!

Do you model this behaviour? Do you tell her 'I was happy today because X happened at work' or 'I was really annoyed earlier because I stepped in a puddle and got a wet foot' etc. Do you communicate what's happened in your day/your feelings?

Can she communicate other needs like hunger/thirst/cold/hot/tired?