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How to cope with 15m tantrums/ just general unhappy toddler!

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AmberM223 · 21/01/2024 08:52

So my LO is 15m and has always been a challenging baby. Colic/ reflux/ never slept/ excema/ fussy with food/ dairy allergy you name it he’s probs had it!
He still had a diary allergy/ eczema but we control it and nothing to the point it would extremely bother him. He’s always cried a lot, he’s honestly had ‘tantrums’ since he was 7/8m old, hysterical fits of crying throwing himself on the floor (he could stand up very early) all when he didn’t get what he wanted. But now he’s walking, can talk quite well for 15m old the tantrums are getting so so much worse. He’s hitting me and his dad when we say no, and he knows it’s wrong but he will keep doing it over and over if we ignore him. So i move him and just say that’s naughty - he then just erupts like a volcano. He will cry and scream until he’s sick and just get more aggressive if i don’t physically leave the room. He does throw his toys at people quite a lot, especially babies that are smaller than him? he throws toys at them and can be quite aggressive like grabbing them and hitting them.
He sleeps through the night, has about 2hr of naps during the day and i do offer him 3 meals a day plus snacks but this is hit and miss on how much he eats because he’s fussy.
I just don’t know how i should be dealing with the tantrums, or if it’s normal for the tantrums to be this bad so early? You always hear of the ‘terrible twos’ and i wonder how it can get worse!! when we go out and he needs to go in the pram he is hysterical screaming until he’s choking and it’s just embarrassing, but when we let him out and ask him to hold our hand he will for 10 seconds then he’s screaming because he doesn’t want to do that. I just can’t seem to do right for wrong with him and he just always seems unhappy and that he wants to cry and scream - are other babies like this!?
Sorry for going on 😫

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Superscientist · 21/01/2024 08:56

At that age whenever my daughter hit us we said we don't hit we cuddle and gave her a big cuddle. For us it nipped the behaviour in the bud without bringing more confrontation to a confrontational situation. She very rarely hit after realising hitting resulted in the same thing as being kind.

At this age they are looking for cause and effect. If I do this do I get the same reaction every time?

kittykhops · 21/01/2024 09:02

They really are all different, and you might find that your 'terrible twos' are actually the 'terrible ones'.

I don't think there's much technique to how to deal with it at this age, although I like PPs suggestion, just got to wait it out (and don't be worrying about the next stage when it could be your better stage 😊)

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