Hi, I think I'm just needing to rant tbh.
I have a nearly 13 year old daughter who is being a typical sullen, moody teen. She's got access to tiktok which I was previously monitoring and had the password to as I helped her set it up. I didn't even go through it unless I thought there was a need.
Recently she's deleted the account I had access to and made a new one secretly.
I get she wants some independence and wants to find herself separately from her mother but I asked for her name on social media platforms just so I could see what she's up to with her being 12 nearly 13 and she refused.
She was at her dad's and he was on the phone to me, on loud speaker laughing and making it out like I was an idiot. He was acting like a teenager.
This is an ongoing issue with him, he treats our like a friend rather than his child. He's always the "fun parent" and I'm the one with the responsibilities.
Recently my daughter is acting very moody with me and prefers to spend time with her dad as there are no rules there at all.
He's told me himself that his house is for "relaxing" and she doesn't have to do homework, chores or anything.
He doesn't work and claims full benefits. He hasn't worked in 11 years and refuses to pay support for her but always takes her bowling or to arcades ect.
It's just driving me mad if I'm honest. Think I just need a rant.
I'm fed up of being the bad guy because I set boundaries and expectations around behaviour and he encourages her to be rude and defiant.
She had autism too, I'm the only one who goes to CAHMS and the school to deal with issues. He leaves it all to me and offers no help all the while painting me as the bad parent and blaming me for everything.
My daughter has told me how he's always telling her i have a go at him or shout at him but I only ever message or call him if something is happening with our daughter and only talk about her.
I'm thinking of cutting contact with him and not involving him in anything anymore. He's always been a problem and has done so many awful things in the past, I haven't got time to include them all now. It's mostly the immaturity that's the issue now.
Sorry for the long post, I know its a bit of a ramble I think I just needed to rant.