Hi!! Not sure if I've tagged the appropriate thread, but I will give it a go.
My toddler DS only met his dad a few months ago (long story, authorities had reasons to not allow any contact from birth. His dad (my ex) then applied for access via court etc and was granted in contact centre with stepped programme to overnight stay).
My ex lives in his partners home with her children. My DS is due to go to his dad's home in next few weeks where he will meet his dad's partner for the 1st time. DS will then be staying overnight once per week if all goes well. Please keep in mind, my ex's partner seems to hate me and is horrible about me on social media and I have never met her in person (apart from walking past her in court).
Cafcass told me months ago that my ex will be buying my DS a bed which will be placed next to his bed. Cafcass also told me that ex's partner will have to sleep on sofa when my DS stays overnight. Hpwever, there is nothing on the court order saying anything about where ex's partner or my DS should sleep and I 100% know she will not stay on the sofa in her own home.
I had a conversation with my ex today and brought up the fact that I'm not convinced his partner will sleep on sofa when DS stays and my ex said "she will for the first few weeks", meaning my DS will be sleeping in the same room, possibly the same bed as my ex and his partner as he has not mentioned anything about my DS having his own bed like he told Cafcass months ago. I feel extremely uncomfortable with this.
I did say to my ex that I would be uncomfortable with another woman sleeping with my child etc and I also used the 'if I got a partner, you wouldn't like a man sleeping next to our DS' and he said 'I would kill him'....yet, I will be expected to be okay with his girlfriend sleeping next to my son.
I do believe my ex is narcisstic and he does seem to get a kick out of doing anything to hurt me.
My son has his own room in my house but he does mainly sleep with me and he prefers that and I want him to feel safe.
Can I contact court again to have it changed?? Please advise.