Dreading nursery drop off

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Dreading nursery drop off tomorrow he was so upset on drop off today although was fine rest of the day

Ah has he just started? My wee one found it tough the first few days, then just cried at drop off and pick up for a week and then he realised he loves it! He gets so excited in the car when we arrive and squeals with excitement when the workers in his room open the door. It's taken a while but he's so happy and settled now and I'm really glad we stuck with it because he's come on so much in himself.

I recommend trying to keep your morning really chill, be early so you're not stressed getting out the door (that made a difference for us) and have a wee plan for after like phoning a friend for a quick chat or stopping to get a nice coffee for yourself as a treat. It's not easy until they settle I feel for you!

My son got upset at the nursery attached to school early on. Staff wanted to take him but I had a much more boring solution. I sat on the bench with the clothes pegs on and held him so he was facing the wall. He soon calmed down and could hear all the fun going on around him but couldn't see it. He asked to go home and I told him we couldn't go home. We just sat there. I didn't suggest I might leave or anything. I didn't try to encourage him to go and play. We just say there. It wasn't long before he got down and headed off to play. It never happened again.

Week 2 and he will be fine…you’ll see.

I hated this, it was so hard

Sometimes when it was really bad I'd go and sit in the car and have a cry. Sometimes I'd phone nursery from the carpark after 5 - 10 mins to see if DD was OK, she was always fine, and I could often hear her playing in the background.

If you're allowed to go in the room, I used to find that if I got her interested in something like a book or a small world set up or something then I could kiss her on the head and say 'bye' and leave without her really noticing (I didn't sneak out as thought that might make her scared I would randomly disappear at other times!)

Yep 👍🏽 or not that much longer! It's amazing to witness the before and after in such a short space of time. ☺️

Thank ypu all yes he started yesterday its a lovely nursery just felt so guilty when dropping him off as he was so upset these comments make me feel reassured

I promise it will get easier. Hang on in there x

The only other thing I'm concerned about is he doesn't really eat there its from 9-2.30 and they don't do packed lunch it's a hot meal but he doesn't really like them and doesn't eat

He will eat, don’t worry! And if he doesn’t you can give him a late lunch when you pick him up and a big dinner. It’s only 5 hours, nothing will happen if he doesn’t eat.

They settle really quickly, if you’re smiling and happy about going to nursery and make it seem like a very good thing they pick it up and realise it’s actually fun. I used to be very jolly when dropping Dd off and then had a little cry when she’d gone in. But honestly it was 2 weeks and then she was asking to go on the weekends 😂

Would the nursery let you drop off a lunch with him? I know my son's nursery did snacks like fruit mid morning and early afternoon , and I remember some parents brining in food that there little ones preferred eg a bagel if they wouldn't eat what's provided .
I the early days well with my little one he would cling to me and someone would have to take him , lasted a few weeks but did stop and he was so happy to go after a while to the point he was asking to go once old enough to let me know . The nursery would send me a picture of him within 10 minutes of drop off and he would be smiling and enjoying himself while I was crying all the way to work in the car and a hot mess , kids eh x

I'm not sure if they do maybe I ask them before I drop him off thann you for your reply I feel a lot better

Thank you 😊

He will pick up on your emotions so however you're feeling you need to be really calm and positive when you drop him off. Hugs, kisses and smiles, telling him he will have a great time and you'll see him soon. The first few days and weeks can be hard but he will get there.

Don't worry too much about food on day 2, he's still figuring everything out and there's every chance he will start eating more. Kids are well known for tucking into food at nursery they'd never touch at home but it's very early days for him.

Aw op I remember these days well! Dd would cry, then I would cry all the way to work!
They do soon settle, nursery staff are usually very good at distracting children at drop off. Try not to make a big thing of saying goodbye, just a quick hug, kiss and leave. It will get easier

I remember these times too! Honestly, they stop crying so quickly after you have left as the staff are really good at what they do. DD stopped all together after a few weeks with the odd day here and there. I found it really hard but I would say all my goodbyes as we walked in and then once she was handed to someone I did my cheeriest "have a great day, love you, bye" and ran out.

Nursery is so good for them and their development.

He will begin to eat their food quite soon too.