Relocating with DD from N.I to Scotland

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So I just want to know if anyone has been in this situation. I've been in a long distance relationship for some time now an were both at a crossroads as to where we go from here. Me and my DD live in N.ireland an my partner lives in Scotland we want to progress in our relationship but it's difficult with the distance obvs. I'm not happy here in NI yes my family is here but its not what I want and atm things for me an my DD aren't a normal routine due to where we live. I'm worried as I know my ex is going to say no to me an my DD moving but I don't want to stop him seeing her either I'm willing to make the effort for him to see her (he has her 2nights a month an a few hours twice a month, his choice). I just don't really know how to go about it all and it's stressing me out so much. I have a plan for us moving an me an my part have discussed in detail how we would work everything I'm just stressing so much about asking my DD dad.

If anyone has been in this situation I'd really appreciate some advice/support.

I’m pretty sure he could go to court and stop you going.

I don’t think it’s fair on him or your daughter.

why can’t your partner move?

I agree with @Bettyscakes . Doing that is probably only going to land you in court. It isn’t fair at all on your DD or him. Surely your partner could just make things easier for everyone and move over, even for a while to see how things go? How is living in NI stopping you from having a ‘normal routine’?

It probably depends where abouts in Scotland you plan to move? You can fly from Glasgow to Belfast in under 30 minutes, so not exactly a difficult journey a couple of times per month.

Plenty of low cost airlines that offer flights and if you book far enough in advance, will be easily affordable.

I am pretty clueless regarding courts though, but I don't see why they would stop you for the sake of a quick flight/boat trip?

If you can demonstrate it's in her best interest to move then a court should allow you to move

Also, how old is she? Whats her view?

Living in the central belt of Scotland, we have many friends and work colleagues who’ve moved here from NI and Ireland. They all love it here though they make lots of trips back as the fares are so cheap and it’s an easy journey. We’ve watched their children grow up with ours, going on to university for the older ones.

Several friends have openly mentioned they moved to get away from tensions where they previously lived.

Air fares would be very reasonable for your ex, just a few pounds if booked well in advance. You would, of course need to get him or the courts to agree on the move.

He would just be paying for flights though, it would be transport to/from airport, accommodation, meals.

Why is it in YOUR DAUGHTER'S best interest to relocate to Scotland? To leave friends, family, schooling, dad?

Your ex can go to court to prevent your dd being moved. Nothing to stop you going alone op. Or can your boyfriend move to NI?

I don't know about the legal aspects but how long have you been with your partner and most importantly how old is your DD and what are her thoughts on moving

Yes, Scotland is very close to NI as PPs have said but I still don’t think it’s fair to force a child to travel long distances and get on a plane or ferry a few times a month to see her father. A few years ago you used to be able to get from Belfast to Glasgow for just £12, that is no longer the case @Pupfu @Honeysuckle16 and it would certainly heavily mount up money wise these days. At very least I’d leave it until she’s old enough to make the decision for herself