DS screams EVERYTIME he can't have his own way - is it wrong to ignore him?

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My 14mth old DS screams and cries proper tears if he can't have his own way. He tries to take all his sister's toys off her and screams if she won't let him.

In the past we have given in for a quiet life but I can't do it anymore and am sick of pandering to his paddies.

I usually ignore him but worry he's too young for that sort of thing. He will scream and scream for ages after.

What would you do?

MY ds (12) used to cry and make himself physically sick . IT was really bad attention seeking. I started to ignore the crying ( i know its hard) and really praise the good behaviour. My dd2 is nearly 2 and now testing the boundries ( goes up the stairs when let out of front room to get into buggy) If you show them you are upset then they will milk it .THey are crafty little buggers from the moment the poke their noses into the world. LOL xxx

Aagghh! I've always questioned the 'ignore it'
approach. I think that must be more infuriating than anything and make them scream more because nowt's happening.

14 months is still a baby. Distraction is your best bet. Change the scene, sing a song, use a 'positive' voice.

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agree with doodletoyou dont ever give in to them

Distract, Distract, Distract!

My dd2 is 16 months and exactly the same. If my 8 year old has something dd2 will want it, she will really get in a hissy fit over it. I normally tell my eldest to sit at the table where dd2 cant reach and then distract her when the toy is out of the way.
I always try to distract but if thats not possible or isnt working I will ignore it. IF THAT doesnt work I put it down to over tiredness and she will go down for a nap. If shes in a stinker of a mood tiredness is nearly always what it boils down to and once shes down shes asleep within 5 minutes.

Thanks for that! I am certain it's not really for attention as such - he is frustrated that he can't have his own way as much as he wants.

Need to get more distraction ideas don't I! He's so infuriating though - say I do try to distract with something, he'll knock it out of my hand scream and shake his head violently for NOOOOO!! Little Monster ....

Oh same thing here.
Ds is 19 months and deliberatly takes toys of DD to get a reaction, then when shes crying he hands them back!

If DD has something he has to have it and pulls her hair if he cant get it.

He is having major tantrums if you wont give something to him/put on his dvd or even if he doesnt want to get dressed. His favorite thing is to scream when you say 'no' or 'you cant have that'

I dont really have any advice because similar to you, if I try to distract him he is so angry he just hits out or screams louder. DH jokes that hes like the incredible hulk and gets so angry dh is expecting him to bust out of his pj's.

The one distration that does work is 'oh look theres a dog in the garden'
Its his favorite animal so normally gets him out of his mood and if that fails I let him get on with it and ignore.