Where would you go? Single mums

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Hi

Are there any single mums who have relocated with their children for a fresh start?

DH shows very little interest in the kids. He would rather play playstation. And the in-laws only see the kids on birthdays to drop a card off. There really isn't much to stay for. I am depressed and lonely. Months go by without a message from anyone. I hate my DS school. I love our house but hate the area.

I think I'd like to move away, like 'hours' away! If 'family' want to see the kids, they can visit or we can meet up, but it's unlikely, as we only live a few minutes away now and nobody bothers.

Ideas very welcome! And your stories, pros cons. Thank you

I moved me and DS to a market town in Wiltshire.

Clean air, lower rents (I don't know where you are but it was lower for me), nice small primary school, Generally less stressed. Very friendly

Plus endless beautiful open countryside. We've been here 12 years now and it's been without problems.

Would your DH allow the children to be moved hours away from him?
I'd go for a city where children can get buses etc when they are older so you don't have to ferry with lifts. London if you can afford it

Or just look up a map of outstanding schools and move next to one

Cornwall? Devon? Isle of Wight?

I'd check this first.

He might suddenly become interested if he thought you were about to move them away.....

Sounds like heaven. I'm glad it worked out for you. Thank you for your reply.

DH has had plenty of time to spend with the kids. He always has other priorities. I think several hours away is a fantasy and in reality unlikely to happen unfortunately. But I am serious about being a couple of hours away at least. Yes good schools are top of my list and property prices. I really don't want to sell the house, I've always said no. But everyone knows everyone. I will bump into in-laws or DH and potential new partners all the time. I want to get away from all of that and the fake people in my life.

I can understand that. I moved us about 85 miles away from ex. Not so far that he couldn't see ds regularly, but far enough that we would never run into him or his nasty family by chance, and could relax and build a new life. Even when ex visits, this is the polar opposite of where he would choose to live. It's my way of underlining that I am never going back. 🙂

He can't stop her as long as its in the UK

I think you are amazing and very brave for doing what you needed to do. I hope if the time comes that I have the courage to do it too. I wish you all the best.

Thank you. Yes we would stay in the UK. I will go where I can afford to live.

I am mid way through a move to Devon. My ex saw the children 5 x last year, with me as chaperone as my children didnt want to see him on their own.... I can facilitate that level of contact from.pretty much anywhere.
He is an alcoholic though and for me, I am looking g forwards to being closer to my parents and having a more affordable home as he has just stopped paying CMS as isn't working ..
Fingers crossed it will all happen for us within the next month. Good luck if you also make the step x

@HalloumiGeller he could go to court and get a prohibited steps order to stop her moving so far away

Ahh gosh that must be so hard for you and the kids. I'm sorry to hear that. Devon sounds lovely. I hope it all goes well for you. Thank you good luck to you too.

I think you missed the part where he doesn't care lol. He lives in the same house as the kids now and barely has time for them. His main goal any chance he has is to game, gamble or watch endless videos of other people gaming or playing fruit machines. He doesn't deserve any of us. He can try, but I will go to my grave first!

You'll be surprised by how interested they become once you leave, even if he stops you as revenge or to be vindictive

did you move OP?