MIL Problems

[Littleaimz101]

So to start I have two little boys age 2.5years and the other 9months. My MIL isn't especially close to either of them and we have quite a fraught relationship and always have had.

Today we were out at lunch with her, our two boys, myself and my partner. My 2.5year old was sat on her lap and she announced (loud enough for the two tables next to us to hear) "oh you love my boobs don't you". We ignored her and then she proceeded to directly say to me "he's obsessed with my boobs you know". My son was quite literally sat on her lap, not touching or looking at her in any way.

To say I was shocked is an understatement. I keep asking myself if I'm being unreasonable for being so upset that she would try to sexualise my child/her grandchild or if i ahould just let it slide. I've spoken to my partner about it but he just brushes it off saying its just his mum being herself. What's your take?

Yeah that's really weird and annoying. It sounds like maybe its her personality and she might not think about it in the context of sexualising the child. Can you call her out next time she does something like that? She might think twice about it in future.

How weird! Why would she say that? definitely let her know you feel before it gets weirder.

That's really weird.. she's clearly got some issues. I probably wouldn't say anything as wouldn't know what to say and it would be so awkward. But it would definitely be even more reason for us to have a distant relationship and not see her that much

Yeah that's weird but I'm not sure she's sexualising your child, is she an eccentric person generally? I probably would have called her up on it at the time and just said what are you talking about? Otherwise she genuinely might not realise how weird she's being. But if you don't like being around her and she isn't close to your children then just keep your distance.

She just sounds like a tedious attention seeker who's trying to draw attention to and sexualise herself, and not your son - he's just the tool she's using to claim attention and admiration. in any case she sounds absolutely awful! What a twit.

Was it a passive aggressive point about breastfeeding?

I have no idea. It was completely out of the blue. I think others are right. It more sexualising herself...but involving my child in that comment doesn't sit right with me at all.