3 year old still not ready for potty training

[Sunshine1996]

DD turned 3 in December. We tried potty training 6 months ago but she was very distressed so we decided to wait. Over the Christmas holidays we went with no nappies other than night time. Again DD was very distressed but we’ve tried to stick it out. Lots of accidents but would do around 1 or 2 wees a day on the potty. However I don’t think this was intentional, just us continually asking her to sit on the potty.
DD never says she needs a wee, and when she wets through isn’t bothered at all and won’t mention anything.
Nursery have said to me she isn’t ready. I completely understand from their point of view they don’t want to be changing clothes all through the day. But I am so worried that she should be potty trained by now, will going back to nappies just set us back further? 😞

Sounds like my son, if they aren't ready then they aren't ready, you can't make them ready based on their age.
Just go back to nappies and try again in a few months.
My regret is trying for too long at age 2 and 3/4, it was too early for him. At 3 and 1/4 he was alright fairly quickly.

We did a gentle approach to potty training and started with an hour on my day off mid week. My daughter got quite upset with weeing on the floor. We had had incident a few weeks earlier where she took herself down to her birthday suit and then had a poo on daddy's chair at the dining table.
We did an hour on Saturday and Sunday. She stopped the continuous weeing so she was less distressed. We did the same the following week and her control was much better and she did a wee in the hour. We increased the time until she could do 4h. On home days we offered nappy of knickers when she got up and woke from a nappy. We had hoped to take the most of the Easter break but she didn't want knickers on that weekend. We managed it at the following may bank holiday.
We found that some ways of asking her if she needed a wee were only met with stubborn refusal to use the potty to the slow build up helped us work out how best to communicate with her. When we took the plunge she train quite quickly for wees but slower for poos due to toddler diarrhoea and food allergies she doesn't always get much notice and it was harder for her to pick the cues. She got those sorted at October so 4-5 months later.

If you've given it a good couple of weeks and you are getting more misses than hits in the potty/loo then it does sound like she's not ready, especially if she's not telling you or seeming bothered.

If she was only 3 in December, I'm guessing you have well over a year before she starts school, so I'd be tempted to go back to nappies for a bit especially if nursery aren't on board. You've got plenty of time.

If you use pull ups you can still practice skills like pants up/down and sitting on the potty/loo. It all helps.