Does any one have a set SAHM Routine that they follow?

[amy773]

I've been a SAHM for almost 6 years now and honestly I'm bored out my mind, unmotivated, miserable. My youngest will be starting nursery shortly but in the mean time I was hoping a set routine might help us.

Does anyone have a SAHM routine that they follow and actually works for them?

How are you bored?! Are you an extrovert who loves being around people?

Wake up work out or meditate
get ready
wake children up and get them ready
Breakfast
School run
get back home and
Tidy up
Run errands, pick up stuff for family, pets or home, online shop
Stop for lunch
Laundry tidy up
Tv and cuppa or read or MN or whatever
Pick up kids
Prep and give snack and catch up
clear up snacks
Homework
Dinner
bath For kids
Bedtime for kids
clear up dinner, reload dishwasher/washing machine
Grown up hang out
Bedtime for grown ups

You could go to the gym after drop off or make new recipes for dinner or deep clean your home or read books or learn a new skill online.. change your mindset you have so much freedom.

Something to do with being 6 years in and having like 3 friends

I know what you mean, it’s hard to find the same stuff fun day in day out.
Am I right in thinking you’re asking for ideas for a routine WITH your youngest until they start at nursery?
I had a very basic routine of out in the morning (toddler group, park, meet friends, soft play, museum, even just a walk) then home in the afternoon. I kept my working morning routine so the dishwasher was done, laundry put on, beds made etc before leaving the house. Then in the afternoon I’d try to get some cleaning done while dc played /watched too much tv. Then back out for the school run.
With dc3 I still had some motivation (having been back at work for over 6 years in between) and would set up messy play activities, tuff trays, do themed weeks etc, but with dc4 I was definitely bored and only doing stuff for them rather than because I enjoyed it too.

Why not go back to work if it’s so unfulfilling?

Can you go back to work once your youngest is in nursery?

Where do you live? Might help people make suggestions. Are you more bored or more lonely?

Not a SAHM but only work 2 nights a week. 8 YO DS and 18 Month DD, I go to the gym (take DD with me in her pram) makes my days less boring!

Go to work. SAHM is drudgery mostly! Use you brain, fulfil your potential, get some independence. You’ll be a better parent for it.

That does sound quite boring to be how st with you.

Go on FutureLearn and learn something new for free, expand your interests or employability.

Best thing I did was volunteering. It was for major charity in office so really helped when I went back to work too. I'd volunteer for something that vaguely relates to your future job. I met some great people and you can be flexible with your time.
I know other people in different circumstances who volunteer in local gardens or river bank clearing , charity shops , dementia cafes . Tbh the country runs on people helping like this.

get out every morning. Volunteer and help - at NCT, church playgroups (don’t have to be religious), baby bank you can take your child but still help. You’ll make friends and build skills.

When I was a sahm with a little one, My days often went like this -

Get up, washed and dressed then downstairs for breakfast

Put some clothes on to wash

Clear up after breakfast, prep lunch then head out

Take dc to a group or to meet friends with dc or to feed ducks/ go to the farm
Have lunch out or come home for lunch
Tv or activity at the table for dc
Prep dinner with an audiobook or podcast on and some sitting with a cup of tea for me
Dc would then do a mixture of playing or watching tv or an activity with me like learning letters and numbers.

Dinner then tv then bedtime.

Then cleaning up and time for me to relax

Sounds like a lot of tv but it was usually good learning stuff. Mostly CBeebies.

We did go out for the whole day or some afternoons too occasionally but generally, that's what it was like.

I'd start working part time when your youngest is in nursery. 2 or 3 days a week will make all the difference. Dedicate another day to a new (or restart an old) hobby to get out and meet new people.

I work part time and on the days my son isn't at nursery our routine is pretty loose. Out in the morning to an activity or swimming or the park, and home in the afternoon. I look forward to the warmer weather when we'll stay out most of the day.

The difference for me is an active group of local mums with kids the same age who still stay in touch well past the baby phase. There's about twenty on a WhatsApp group and we get the kids together all the time or arrange nights out. In the summer there will be a lot of picnics in the park and visits to each other's houses for the kids to play in the gardens and paddling pools. It's not too late to do similar. Maybe host a little play date at yours for a few nursery pals to get to know some of the mums. Or host a coffee morning when the kids are all at nursery.