Do you take toddler for a dream wee?

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DD is about three months into potty training age 3.5. I’ve been putting pull up pants for night time and reducing liquids in evening and encouraging the loo before bed but obviously she isn’t dry overnight.

I keep seeing some parents pop their DC on the toilet while they are asleep to do a dream wee. Is this something you have to do? DD is a notoriously shite sleeper and if something wakes her up she will be awake for HOURS.
can I continue to just use the pull ups until she becomes dry overnight?

I’ve never heard of a Dream Wee!
But I have had 3 children and when they are asleep I would never wake them!!

I used night time pants until dry at night.

Yes we do this! Child is the same age as yours. It means he sleeps through til 7. He's so deeply asleep he doesn't actually wake up.

I knew about this but I would never wake a newborn/baby toddler or older

I am not insane! (I am partly joking but would hate to be woken myself)

I never did this but my kids were dry at night pretty quickly after daytime. if they weren’t, I would have just kept using a pull up or whatever.

I'd rather keep using a nappy, rather than risk messing with their sleep

Never did this - just continued putting DD in nappies at night until she went dry. Going dry at night is triggered by a hormone. DD was dry in the day at 2.5 and only just went dry at night in October, aged 4. Much less stress all round to just wait!

My son was notoriously hard to train but once we got the day down I did pull ups at night & once I noticed he was dry for a good few mornings we went onto pants & he did great, I'd get him to go to the bathroom before he slept & that was it, I'd never heard of a dream wee & I have another son to start training soon & I won't be doing it with him either as he is not as good a sleeper as my 1st & I'm not risking that as he's awake at 6 every morning as it is (no matter what time he sleeps)

It was the advice 20 years ago so I did it with my eldest.
Current thinking is a dream wee is pointless as often the child doesn't really wake up. You carry them to the loo and the wee in their sleep. So it's not really training them to be dry and hold liquid.

If you look at the Eric website there's lots of good advice. Including upping their liquid intake to ensure their bladder is able to hold liquid. Also they have to produce a hormone to stop making urine over night. No dream wees encourage the hormone production.

Having said that my middle one was dry in the day by 2 but still wet at night by 6. I tried a month of dream wees but it made no difference really. They are 60% dry at night by themselves.

Go to the Eric website as it's great.

Please don't! My mother did this and I've only slept through the night a handful of times in my life.

Do you really think the two are connected? I've never heard that but it's interesting.

I assumed anyone aged 30 and above were taken for a dream wees.

Nope, just use night pull ups.

Did this with my ds but didn't need to for long as he soon was waking himself if necessary but was mostly dry in a short time.
He was a good sleeper though so just went straight back to sleep.
Also did it with his sister, she was also a good sleeper, but too good, she wouldn't wake for a matching band going through her room so it was a looooong time before she was reliably dry at night because it just wouldn't wake her! She was nearly 7 before she was guaranteed dry, just because she was such a deep sleeper.

If yours won't be lifted and go back down easily I'd carry on as you are for now. It's not worth losing your sleep for.

Everything I’ve read says not to do it as it encourages them to wee when sleepy/asleep. It’s not something I’ve done.

My kids are 30s and I have never heard of this before so not sure that it was a thing until recently. Also had never heard of a dream feed.

Being dry at night is down to the child producing enough of a certain hormone. The same hormone which decreases with age meaning you need to pee in the night as you get older. Lifting them late at night makes no difference to the development of this.

I'm 46 and I taken for dream wees and I took my child 20 years ago as my parents told me that's what you do.

It's a big no with HV's now.

I do this, just before I go to bed - despite DC using the toilet before Bed they're still occasionally having accidents. Normally carry them to the toilet around 11-12pm.

It's hormonal for night time so just keep in pull ups until dry at night.

Never heard of this.

Strangely enough, my DC were dry at night well before they were reliability dry during the daytime.

I think you need to do whatever suits you and your child.

There are several reasons for wetting at night, hormonal is one. More information here if anyone needs -
https://eric.org.uk/
Doing a 'dream wee' can make some worse and some better. Do what's right for you, but if it will mean she awake a lot at night, that's an easy 'not for us' imo.

I would just carry on using pull ups until they are dry at night. Strangely both of mine were dry at night from the minute we started day time training but I think most kids are usually a bit longer to crack nighttime due to the hormone etc

DD potty trained at 2.3 in the day but up until 2.7 was still having very full, wet nappies when she woke up in the mornings then literally overnight she has started being dry through the night. I've never taken her for a dream wee just made sure she has had a good wee before bed and it seems she's now producing the hormone to be able to stay dry overnight, we changed absolutely nothing to get her to be dry overnight. It will happen when they're ready.

I've always just used nappies at night with my three DC and you'll notice that eventually they will be dry as well. One was dry straight away but two took longer. I'd not make any issue of the nighttime nappies and eventually she will start becoming dry

We potty trained my daughter in the summer. We have been using pull ups overnight.
In the last 6 weeks her nappies have gone from being heavily wet to light-to-moderate wet. She is an awful sleeper at the moment up 4 times a night and if she gets too awake on the wake up it takes 2+h to get her back to sleep. We will not be taking her to the toilet overnight until she's out of pull ups!

We are starting to make sure she goes to the toilet immediately before bed and as soon as she wakes up. She is very resistant on using the toilet when she doesn't actively need to go. We will keep this up until she is pretty much dry then we might revisit the decision to put her on the toilet overnight. We have 2 padded knickers for long car journeys, they only hold a large dribble but we find them useful when timings of needing a wee and access to the toilet might be off slightly and plan to use this as we go through night potty training