Where is the volume control?

[MotherOfCrocodiles]

DS(4) is so bloody loud. Shouts instead of talking. Gets louder and louder with each sentence. Stomps his feet when walking.

He just doesn't seem capable controlling it, he might use a quiet voice for a minute after being asked but then forgets and goes back to his usual volume

Is this normal and what strategies can anyone recommend?

Duct tape- helpful as ever I know.😉😂

I just find I'm constantly asking him not to shout, literally every conversation at the moment is like: "mum, 9+2=11!"; "well done! Please don't shout". I want to be able to respond to what he is saying not change the topic to ask him not to shout

Ha have been tempted when his sisters are sleeping and he is yelling

😃 I remember wishing you could take the batteries out too……

My son is the same and I have taught hundreds of primary school children so I can tell you there's no magic solution at that age. They just default to different volumes. You remind them more as a way of teaching them that it affects others, rather than with any expectation you'll get a quick fix. Sorry.

Although responding in a slightly theatrical quiet voice temporarily brings them down sometimes ... I know exactly what you mean about not wanting every conversation to involve the words 'indoor voice please' !

Omg yes. I've just ordered another set of loop earplugs as I'm gutted I've lost my first pair. Three weeks off nursery and I can't cope anymore. My ears are ringing daily. Add into the mix a loud emotional 1 year old and and I'm done

Thanks @napody , yes I feel I have to keep telling him, more so in company, because it's socially unacceptable (and quite unpleasant to be fair) this is probably why it's driving me mad now. But in a way I think he just doesn't have the ability to inhibit the loud voice so feel bad about constantly telling him to be quiet instead of responding to what he is actually saying.

My nearly 6 year old is the same - winds me up no end. I actually find it painful, and it induces feelings of anger, especially if I've reminded him multiple times already that day

I agree- he doesn't have the ability to inhibit it yet, and reminding them to pipe down is often performative to show others that you're doing something!

At 6 my DS is a TINY bit better- age 4 was peak volume!

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I remember looking at them as babies and wondering what their wee voices would be like....

Now I wish they would just be quiet for FIVE minutes 😂😂😂😂

I'm over here living the dream too. Not helped by a baby that's finding his voice so 4 year old thinks it's ok to screech and bellow all the live long day too!!

Still looking for it and he is a teenager now 😂

Oh God, still going on at six? Yes I suppose some of 6yo DD's friends are like this. When does it stop?!

Drip feed but we are currently on holiday in a flat (don't live in a flat normally thank goodness) so extra sensitive to it. Especially the stomping. We're trying to keep him on the upper floor so he's not directly stomping on neighbours ceiling 🫤

@VestPantsandSocks 😮

Ok - I was exaggerating but he does revert back sometimes 😝