Tantrums - losing the will to live

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Hello everyone, Happy New Year!

wish this year was beginning better I have to say. Can someone please tell me it generally gets easier

I hate that I’m wishing time to go faster so she gets older and we have less of these. But my daughter is 1 y/o and 2 months. She is just recently having horrible tantrums over every little tiny thing. Screaming when she doesn’t get her own way. Screaming for everything. She has her regular naps, nothing really changed with her routine. No signs of her being unwell or teething, just seems to be a tantrum. She’s fine if I let her carry on what she’s doing which is often something she shouldn’t be doing, like going near plug sockets, etc. can someone give any advice or experience? Thanks

Following with interest as my 15 month old is the same. I try to distract as much as possible and waiting for the phase to pass. Also try to get some regular time to myself...do you have a supportive partner or family/friend that can give you a break. Also....I do sometimes put Ms Rachel on youtube for 10mins to give me a breather!

My DS is 21 months but I found at that sge he was getting frustrated about not being able to express himself.
I took him out of the house as much as possible (puddlesuit & wellies every day at this time of year) because he was happier when he could rampage around.
I let him play with sockets because they'reso safe in the UK (under a very watchful eye) and he got the fascination out of his system within a few days.
Once he learnt to talk and tell me what he wanted his moods calmed down.

Thanks for getting back to me. She does settle sometimes if the TV is on and I do have family that can give me a break which is nice. The days are just seeming very long and I find myself wishing time would hurry up so she would get older and be able to talk and tell me what the problem is but I know I’ll look back and miss her being this small. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. This is getting very hard though, making me hate motherhood :(

I found this a really hard age too. Even though they start to look like little people and can do much more physically they still have the brain of a baby.

I found 18 months plus much more rewarding, and 2 plus even better. My DS started to have so much more personality, a sense of humour, it’s so nice hearing his little thoughts. He’s actually good company now. I used to dread the days where it was just me and him because they were so long.

No advice really but hopefully it will make you feel better knowing it’s very normal to find it hard, and it does get better.

I totally get it! Both of mine were just horrible at around 15 months. I don’t miss them being that age at all. In fact I’d say it’s top 3 for reasons why I won’t be having a 3rd 🤣

18 months was better, people talk about the terrible 2s but actually they were a breeze in comparison and once they could communicated their wants/needs we were all a lot happier. This too shall pass. Repeat as many times as necessary. Also pick your battles. Eg unless the plug socket is switched on and she’s jamming a fork in there she’s not going to hurt herself. If you didn’t intervene she’d probably realise it’s actually really boring and not go near it again.

Thanks so much everyone. It does indeed make me feel much better hearing your stories. I feel terrible for hating motherhood as I’ve dreamed about it for years but honestly, I’m losing my shxt 😭hopefully she gets over it soon