9 month old doing nothing.. worried

[Ambi88]

Hi so as the title says my 9 month old boy doesn't want to do anything..
he doesn't want to play he doesn't like his jumperoo or his Walker or his high chair.
He just wants to be left alone in his bouncy chair.
Iv tried to get him sitting alone he has a m&p bug to sit in too but nope he can't sit unaided yet at all not even close.
He won't eat food he still eats the purées but not anything with bits in it.
He doesn't babble he makes little squeals and laughs and smiles a lot but doesn't babble.
He can roll from front to back etc but doesn't try to get on his knees. Iv tried everything with him but he loves to just be left alone.
He absolutely doesn't like people either so anyone else trying to hug him is a no no.
His bed time is 3am and he sleeps until 9 am he's never liked sleep and we have tried all the routines etc.
he was 10lb born and is a big boy but tall more than chunky.
I know every baby is different he's my 4th baby and each was different. I have 2 autistic boys and they were both sitting crawling eating one was even walking at 9 months so I wouldn't say it's a sign of autism.
I just don't know and it's sad watching babies his age eating sitting playing I just feel sad for him.
Iv contacted his health visitor but as you can imagine it's a wait to hear back.
Am I just being paranoid? Anyone else's baby similar?
Thank you for reading I know it's a long one xx

Awww all sounds like you're very worried. Have you seen the health visitor for his milestones. I'm sure he's doing somethings but maybe you're concentrated on what he's not doing rather than what he has achieved. Does he follow sounds. Laugh. Interested in the TV etc. Some kids don't like seats. Ask your HV. I'm sure he's OK OP. Much love x

@Seeleyboo
Thank you your right I don't think I do notice the things he's achieved.. he doesn't really follow sound but more selective hearing I'd say as when his favourite tv song comes on he's looking for it.
He's such a lovely little boy laughs and smiles all the time bless him.
Iv spoken to her last month about his eating and he's been referred to a dietitian and to get his hearing checked again.
Iv tried to contact again this week and am waiting for a call back with it being the holidays. But she said she will have a look at him at his 1 year check.
I guess I'm just seeing a lot of babies his age doing certain things and comparing my boy which is silly really but I'm just so worried about him

I would call her back again and say that he needs seeing before he's one and he needs at the very least a referral to Portage and a hearing test.

I'd also ask her to do the 10 month Ages & Stages and the 12 month social & emotional ages & stages.

He does sound like a happy little chap though, he just might need a bit of support

If he cannot sit unaided at nine months he needs urgent referral to child development centre /paediatrician for full assessment

Do your autistic boys see.a paediatrician? Who diagnosed them? Speak to their paed or therapists or key worker .

I see you already have two autistic kids - autism did spring to mind for me too (I have autistic kids so I get it). The bad sleep patterns, food issues, not liking people 😅 all resonated with me.

Because you already have autistic kids, the chances of this one being autistic too is really quite high - he’s just presenting differently. My two were chalk and cheese as babies and toddlers but born turned out to be autistic.

Agree with that Jelly. My first was talking in full sentences at 12 months. The second didn't speak until that were 3.

My 4th was like this! We saw a paediatrician until 18 months when she was discharged - started walking days before the appt so were finally discharged after 9 months.

Honestly I think she was just lazy, siblings used to carry her around and they obviously provided entertainment.

If you're worried though definitely ask for support sooner than 1 year. Hospital paeds will see him if referred, we had blood tests etc to rule things out.

I may be completely off the mark but I'd rather say than not in case it helps!

When you say he only likes his bouncer, I'm thinking he's lay slightly upright at an angle and all is soft. Yet in a high chair/ jumperoo/ sitting alone he will be on different bones/ muscles as he's upright and vertical. Makes me wonder if there's discomfort or pain for him when upright? Even if it's to do with balance.

Like I say completely out there thoughts but you never know!

Is the bouncer still safe at his age? You may have to tough it out and find an alternative place to put him. The mum who suggested possible discomfort may be on to something though.

@SALWARP2023 it's the baby bjorn bouncer so from 0-2 years he seems fine sat up right on my lap but it is an interesting idea and something to look into

@Hayzl I didn't think of that! I will get him looked at definitely. He seems fine sat upright though not in visible discomfort however I think it needs to be ruled out

Yeah I'm going to agree that something it up and giving the family history I'd got with neurodevelopmental conditions/autism.

DS only learned to roll at 9 months but then was waking by 13 months. He's coming up for 2.5 and has a very limited vocabulary, barely joins two words together. Has some other "quirks" but the biggest thing tbh is that the rest of us are either diagnosed or suspected ND.

For a bigger bouncer there's the Nuna leaf or some SEN ones that got up to big kid size btw

Nuna leaf grow*

60kg limit and a few reclines. I can sit in it 😁

@olderthanyouthink
I do agree maybe it's definitely something to look into. My 3 brothers and 3 nephews also have autism so it is very possible. I will bring it up when I speak to his health visitor next but my boys weren't diagnosed until past age 7 but this was 10 years ago now so I'm not sure how they deal with it now?
We have the baby bjorn bliss currently which is age until 2 years I was stuck between that and the nuna leaf

@Jellycats4life
I have 2 autistic sons 3 brothers 2 nephews with autism so maybe it is worth looking into.. wether they will at his age I'm not too sure my boys were over 7 years when they were diagnosed. But yes he absolutely hates people especially if they talk to him 🙈 he literally will be left alone all day if I allowed it. Christmas was a no go too he hated all of it.. I guess he was overwhelmed bless him he was happy when it was over and he could sit in his chair having his super simple songs for an hour 😂

sounds fine

My grandson was exactly like that at 9 months and we were concerned because his cousin who was 6 months could sit up unaided. One day I noticed he didn't respond to the little bell I was ringing but my granddaughter did. We initially thought he might be deaf but we knew something wasn't right because he didn't like to be held he didn't babble, point or respond to his name and slept very little. The health visitor was very good and took my daughters concerns seriously. He was diagnosed with autism shortly after his second birthday. He's now almost 6 and has started to speak he recently started joining a few words together and his understanding has improved greatly. Your little one seems like the sweetest gentlest little boy just like ours.

I read your post and thought it sounded like some autistic traits and then read you have autism in the family, so could be a possibility. I have autism in my family too.
You may very well not get anywhere with the health visitor at this age, just keep pushing and see if there’s any support available in the area you live.
I found my dd hit her milestones in a funny order, she couldn’t sit up for ages but she was concentrating on getting herself mobile, so she was crawling before she could sit. She got there eventually.
If it does turn out to be autism, your DS will progress and I’m sure will surprise you, it just may be a different journey to your other DC 💐

It's really good that you've been referred to a Dietitian and for another hearing test.

To get the ball rolling I would call the HV again and insist that she sees him and does the two questionnaires I linked below.

If she really does want to wait until the 12 month check, make sure she does the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages as well as the usual 12 month Ages & Stages.

It's normal for them to score in the grey for a couple of areas but if it's more than that, he'll need referring to a Paediatrician and to Portage. Don't let her adopt a "wait & see" approach like our HV, it took until DC2 was 15 to get her referred for assessment. Bloody HV was shocking.

Hey, I hope you’re doing well

do you mind giving me some advice please
my 8.5 month old is doing some things which are concerning me and I wanted to kindly ask if you’re autistic babies did any of this.

• Staring at hands/ twisting wrists
• Makes eye contact a lot but sometimes avoids when I’m holding him in my arms/ lap
• Flaps arms when excited/ happy.
• He does babble but also makes grunting noises
• Says mama but at his own accord every now and again
• Scratches his hands against surfaces

I know he’s too young for any form of diagnosis but I just wanted to know if your kids showed any of these traits.

things he does do: laugh/ smile/ cry/ show separation anxiety/ make eye contact with other people in the room/ eats solids and purées/ seems to respond when he’s called but not always/ cannot crawl yet but scoots around.

Please do respond I would appreciate it

Many thanks xxx

@Chzm
Hey so update on my baby he has global development delay and they have said they think he's autistic but obviously at 14 months they can't diagnose yet.
My son twirls his wrists and ankles
Only now sitting
Not much eye contact
Isn't social
He's babbling but not words just noises and growls and grunts
Laughs all the time
Not social
I'd say although your baby does those things which autistic babies do also it might not be that.
Have you asked health visitor to come look at baby? If you have concerns definitely reach out and get them looked at
Xx

Ambi ghave they tested for angelmansyndrome, mecp2 gene,and done general micro array?
Get as much input into communication as poss combine signs symbols pecs etc . One day at a time

@cestlavielife
They have taken bloods to test for genetics and chromosome disorders.. his dr suspects fragile X syndrome because he has some physical features of that too