Help! Stop feeling sorry for myself

[Newyearnewme2024]

I had a baby last year and I’ve not had a full nights sleep since, haven’t left him for longer than an hour and don’t get much support from family either. Most of this is my fault- baby is clingy because I EBF and baby is v attached to me, he can’t be settled by anybody else but me (have tried with DP multiple times). Sometimes I fall into a rut whereby I feel sorry for myself, does anyone else feel this and how can I overcome it? Basically I can’t change the situation so I want to accept it and I do most of the time but sometimes I feel sorry for myself even though I know it’s my fault!

Hey I made an almost and identical post last night haha! Feeling a bit better today though.

I agree. It's so hard sometimes. Also people may comment about stopping BF etc and that can be annoying. You can BF because you want to and still find it hard!

I don't think you need to 'overcome' these feelings, unless they're persistent. Just as you usually accept the way things are, you can also accept and allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself. I think this time of year highlights how limiting small babies/infants can be.

@Lammveg yes absolutely, actually I would love to introduce some formula but DS won’t take a bottle. Agree with this time of year showing how limiting babies are- we are still cosleeping and tonight he’s refusing to sleep without me so I’m in bed already with him, what a wild nye haha. But all my fault as I refuse to let him cry it out (PUPD/gradual retreat didn’t work). Hopefully I wake up feeling better tomorrow :)