9 month old is antisocial and dislikes her older sibling

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Ever since my youngest was aware of her sister, could sit up crawl ect every time she touches her she just screams and pulls away. She will laugh at her if her sister is arms length away if shes making silly noises stupid faces etc but if she tries to hug or kiss her, carry her even just stroke her hand she will scream and shout until she let's go. It's really starting to affect the older ones confidence and she thinks her sister hates her. If I'm honest the baby isn't much of a people person and will whinge and try to get off anyone that's not me (sometimes even dad) but she screams to another level with her sister. Should I be worried about this? Is there anything I can do to help the situation? I try to find a common ground for the both of them but it's quite hard with a such big age gap

It sounds like she just likes her personal space and knows what she's comfortable with - even at that age. My boy is 19 months and has always been the same. Will only initiate affection, if anyone besides me tries to hug or kiss him he will push them away and/or screech at them. I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with him.

Babies are irrational

Actually - most kids are until they're at least 3, at least that's my experience

They're also arseholes at times

Don't try to reason with them

Or understand them

She’s a baby, I’m not sure if “people person” “social” are usual ways to think about babies. I think many babies prefer to be with their main carrier and many don’t like being held by children….I guess children are more unpredictable.

I think you are overthinking your babies behaviour. In your shoes I’d explain to you older child about babies being people too, who have likes and dislikes. If she doesn’t like being touched that should be respected. Then I’d big up the things that older sibling does that baby likes.

@itsmschanandlerbong Thank you, this is comforting in a way that it may just be her personality. Thank you for your comment

I like all of this. Thank you 😁

Thank you. It's just quite foreign to me because the oldest loved people and would go to anyone at any time no fuss which was great. This one is not interested at all 😂 I don't mind because I get the love. It's just hard on her sister mainly! I will have another conversation with her with these things in mind. Thank you

She's nine months old.

Would you like me to say how fucked in the head her mother is for saying her nine month old who hasn't developed the skills to play, is for say her daughter is 'anti-social'?

I had it the other way around. My first would stay on me and didn’t like others. My youngest was very active as a baby and loved everyone. Both very similar even now they’re 7 and 9. Oldest prefers some quiet time with me and youngest is a party animal.