Fed up Mum to a 16 month old

[Shellbobs123]

Hi all!

This is just a bit of a ranty post really...

Im a new Mum to a gorgeous 16 month old boy (who's currently asleep on me as I write this).

I love him dearly but I'm so very fed up of being a Mum and I've never felt so physically and mentally drained!

Im pretty sure that this is all normal but I don't really know what to do about it....

I have a supportive family network and my husband is very hands-on and does everything I do.

Im missing my old life so much and starting to resent my friends who dont have children.

Is anyone else feeling like this at the moment?

It would be good to chat to others in this situation.

Thanks for reading!

Shell x

Do you work? If not, going back would be my suggestion. If you work part time, I'd suggest upping your hours.

I work 3 days a week whilst little one is in nursery. I have thought about going up a day... Its good to know that other Mums think this is a good option!! Thank you for your advice x

Hi Shell, I completely sympathise and relate. I have a 13 month old whom I love dearly but when I'm home with her I find the days so intense. She is lovely but also requires constant stimulation and cries when I leave the room. I sometimes feel trapped in the room I go into with her as she is also now pulling to stand, crawling and into everything and even though we have baby proofed there are still potential hazards (e.g. hard kitchen floor, trapping fingers in cupboards etc).
I'm off work for Christmas at the mo and so finding it more intense than usual. I normally work 4 days a week which I really enjoy.
Do you have a partner and if so are they supportive?
No doubt this is nothing new to you but the things which help me are

• going out everyday, even to the supermarket. Soft play is best as she tires herself out
• scheduling things I enjoy for me time e.g. weekly pamper bath, reflexology, read a bit of a book after she's gone to bed every night
• grit my teeth and endure the crying when I really need to e.g. quickly leave the room to get a drink
• whinging to other mums I know in real life lol

My husband is great which helps.

Work more and increase your childcare. Take time off when your child is at nursery. Get naps happening in the cot so you get a break. Commit to one evening hobby a week and leave your husband to it. It does get better but you have to actively reclaim your life a bit to start with, if that makes sense?

Totally feel you and its safe to say I'm experiencing the same feelings since becoming a mum. I now have a 2.5yr old toddler who drains my soul daily. The tantrums are ruining me