Nervous being a new mum

[Ark95]

Hi all! Using this a place to vent my feelings and hopefully get some reassurance
im a FTM to a beautiful healthy 12 day old girl
I am struggling to adjust. I’m exclusively breastfeeding, feel like a human cow 😂 I mourn being able to just pop out, I had a fairly traumatic birth that ended in an emergency c section- it’s just all so much
I know how blessed and lucky I am I really do and remind myself often. I am blessed with a wonderful husband and family around me but I do just feel like ‘mum’ and that’s it- She isn’t sleeping the best at the moment and I’m just so tired. Just looking for words of wisdom that this is all normal to feel this way and that I will adjust- parenting is so hard! I love her dearly but she is exhausting! Thanks all, any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated xxxxx

Congratulations!
Yes, it is absolutely normal. It is the most exhausting thing. It is like ( or is!) starting a new job straight after surgery and not being allowed to sleep. Your hormones are all over the place, you're leaking from everywhere. It is HARD!
Spend as much time as possible in bed. Do skin to skin, and rest and sleep and allow your body time to heal.
Are ou being properly supported by a partner?

Thanks so so much for your response - it is so hard :( I have quite a clingy baby too so don’t get a second alone, I love her to pieces but I’m exhausted! My husband is fantastic he’s being amazing, but obviously when it comes to feeds he can’t help and she just wants to be on the boob constantly! Again thanks for replying it makes me feel much less alone xxx

Hi OP, I’m in the same boat with a clingy BF girl who just loves to be on the boob 24/7, I also feel like a human cow and feel the same as you do. I find it can be easy to talk yourself out of simple stuff like going for a walk, putting the baby in her cot upstairs whilst you do a bit of housework. I’ve been trying to carve out some time for me, even if it’s a 30 minute hot bath and a face mask or a chat with a friend. It’s so hard to feel housebound constantly but I try and remind myself that it’s my attitude not reality. When DH is back at work next week I’ve vowed to take her somewhere for the morning just the two of us! Sending love

hey fellow mumma! It’s so tough isn’t it, my dh is back to work next week too and I’m going to try and do the same/ it is too easy to not do things and feel like I have to be with bubba 24/7 but thats a mentality I need to get out of and try and do little things for myself - how are you finding night time with feeding? Sending love and well wishes to you, us mummas are strong stuff 💖

I found at the beginning that I just got into the routine of going out for walks in the pram and I kept the routine going for over a year. Best advice I’ve got. It gets you outside, it breaks up the days, wee one gets used to the outdoors. Don’t get me wrong there were times I had to run home as the crying had started for feeds (fully breastfed son) but getting out of the house and the outdoor time/exercise is one of the best things that you can do for yourself as a new mum. Take care and you sound like a lovely new mummy who is very conscientious. It all comes together and (in hindsight) it passes so quickly. When they start to smile at you, you get so much back and it gets better and better. ⭐️💕🥰xxx