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Is this my business anymore?

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lovenotwar149 · 29/12/2023 09:28

Hi ,
My 27 yr old son is going to Morocco in 2 wks, I have just recently found out as he doesn't live with me anymore.
He hasn't travelled since the pandemic. he is quite relaxed about it all and has not read anything about vaccinations etc
Is it my business to suggest and advise?
I did mention these things and he had a ' it'll be fine type of attitude. '
I am concerned.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

mollyfolk · 29/12/2023 22:01

lovenotwar149 · 29/12/2023 18:46

Its very interesting reading peoples 'differing' replies, very interesting indeed.i am quite grateful for them all.
I am actually quite proud of myself tbh. I come from a highly overprotective background, both parents were this way.I vowed to NOT to repeat this type of overprotectiveness with my own 3 sons. I have made soo much progress here and have a very closely appropriate relationship with all 3. They all cook, wash and clean for themselves , which they did when they lived here too. The 27 yr old is very independent. No he did not seek permission to go on holiday for his upcoming trip to Morocco nor his skiing trip in Feb. re skiing trip, he has never skied before so good on him for saying yes to going and with the 2 more experienced skiers he's going with. Now when that skiing trip comes about I will WANT to say something about 'being careful, if the other 2 experienced skiers go on black runs, be mindful that its your first time skiing' etc
Is that too much if I say something like that? I'm not sure it is.
My own mother would have said...
"Skiing, why do you want to skiing? Its so dangerous, dont go.'

Ha - my MIL is like this. Although the overprotective stuff has moved on the the kids - couldn’t believe I was taking them ice skating!

it’s natural to worry and I know I will worry about the kids for the rest of my life. Telling him to be careful is fine. My own father tells me to mind myself with the gas flame when I’m cooking! I just smile.

LadyBird1973 · 29/12/2023 22:46

I think you're fine OP - I'd still tell mine to be careful skiing!
He'll have a shit holiday if he breaks a leg, so a reminder that he shouldn't try to match his friends, can't do any harm. He'll either listen it he won't but I think it's a parent's job to try and prevent harm from coming to our children, however old they may be.

My mum still tries to hold my hand when I cross the road - it's sweet really.

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lovenotwar149 · 30/12/2023 07:58

Thank you people for further replies. Much appreciated! I do love them so dearly but need to be mindful of being 'too' overprotective especially as I have come from a very overprotective background! I guess the proof is in the pudding, they are all doing rather well and they all live away from me, they manage themselves well and are respectable people, all keep in touch with both myself and their father my hubby, but we are not in each others pockets at all, and we are privelidged (dont know how to spell this word!) that they will share their thoughts with us , and they are appropriate thoughts, very parent/son appropriate.
Parenting!!!! Ahhhhh!! Ultimately love it but man is it challenging!!
I am going to unnwatch this thread now, thanks again! :)

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