Potty training - help!!

[Lilsmum21]

Hi all

first time mum here to a 2 year old. Newly 2. She’s been hiding when doing a poo, when she’s naked after a bath will say oops or look down if she doesn’t have a nappy on and wees. We thought this meant she was ready. Yesterday we got up, nappy off, knickers on and kept reminding her to ask us for the potty. Anytime she started to wee we’d rush her to the potty. We’ve had a lot of ‘I don’t want the potty’ and ‘I not like the potty’. Last night I thought we were close as she kept fiddling with the knickers and I asked her to go on the potty, she did and we did this back and forth a few times but she wouldn’t sit on the potty for more than a second or two. She weed on the floor. Carried on into today, noticed she was pooping her knickers I put her on the potty she refused to poo. Is she not ready then, or is this normal? I put a nappy on her for a nap and she screamed the house down ‘I not want nappy I want knickers’. I just want to do what’s best for her, and I don’t want this to be a bad experience for her, so any tips or ideas greatfully received please?

I wish I could be of more help. I don't think I have much to offer but wanted to reply anyway

There is a website that I've been looking at every now and then, I'll put the link for you

https://eric.org.uk/potty-training/

Maybe if she's happy to wear pants, but still could do with a nappy, you could pop some pants over the nappy?
Or use a reward chart and she can have a sticker and praise for everytime she will do something on the nappy ( - even sit for a bit, so she sees it as a 'good' thing?)

I don't know. I'm sure more experienced/better advice will come. Is the health visitor any help with potty training advice?

*do something on the potty - not nappy very tired mum today

I think she doesn't sound ready tbh. Give her a few months and try again but ditch the pants. We used the oh crap method. First day naked from waist down, then once confident using potty put loose trousers on and once confident with that in a few days introduce pants. The feel of the pants can mimic nappy for muscle memory.

Trained my first at 20m in a couple of days and more recently my 24m old using this method. We tried the youngest a few months earlier and had similar issues of not wanting to sit on the potty/not liking it so we held off and he was much better when we did it successfully the 2nd time.

Honestly it sounds like she IS ready but resistant to the change. After all, you're trying to change habits she'd had her entire life.

You're what, two days in? On day two for us I lost count of how many accidents my son had - more than 10. Then day 3, four accidents in the morning and none after that. He started using the potty from then on. Literally like he flipped a switch.

I would really recommend reading Amanda Jenner's potty training magic if you haven't already. She tells you put the child straight into pants and essentially let them figure out natural consequences of having accidents. Yes it's messy. Yes it's incredibly disheartening initially. Yes it works.

For my son I bought him Pirate Pete and the Potty (girl's version is Princess Polly). Really great interactive book to explain to them what to do. It's all about getting them excited about the potty.

I don't think it sounds like she's ready. I'd stop and try again in a few months. When you start again, put her on the potty every 30 mins, don't wait for her to ask as she won't be able to do this to start with. They have to make the connection between the sensation of wanting to go and the practice of going on the potty but this has to be taught.