Started potty training my 2.8 y/o over Christmas. He’s been doing his night time and morning wee’s in the potty for a while so we thought this would be a good time with lots of time at home. It’s been 6 days and we’ve had no wee accidents, 3 totally dry days and 3 days where we’ve had poo accidents. I’m pretty pleased so far.
my issue is that he goes to a childminder 4 days a week and she has told us many times that with all the kids she has plus school runs that she needs him to be verbally saying he needs to go (she doesn’t have the capacity to be asking him, watching him etc apparently) and able to take himself off to the toilet. She’s told us we need to take a week off work to establish it before she will take him in pants (this is fair enough).
we have 5 days until he goes back and I’m not sure what to do next in terms of getting him to the level he needs to be for the cm. I really don’t want to put a nappy back on him but equally don’t want him to be not helped / told off or be told he’s not ready.
he doesn’t verbalise when he needs to go. For wee’s I’d say it’s obvious if you’re looking for it (wiggling and holding himself). For poos he leaves the room and wants to be alone which isn’t ideal.. if we ask him if he needs the toilet he says no and protests and needs to be taken but is then happy to go once there (as long as he actually needs it).
is there anything I can do to help him really recognise and verbalise his need to go? Starting to feel a bit worried about him going back as I can’t take any longer off work (I also think her rules are a bit OTT and unhelpful but maybe this is normal…?)
any advice on managing the transition from home potty training to with a childminder / nursery?