2.5 year old will not sleep

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My little man’s sleep has gone out the window!

i posted the other week but just looking for some solidarity

he is suddenly crying at bedtime, and for hours in the night - he’s so tired!!

I know it’s not illness or anything, he’s angry when I leave and just shouting crying. But then I’ve tried gentler methods and it doesn’t work - also we don’t want to co sleep.

tonight’s night was, down in bed for 7, two hours or crying and crashed at 9. Woke midnight, 3.5 hours of crying, crashed at 3.30am. It’s insane!!

im currently popping in and out the room every 5/10/15 mins to tuck him in, but he sits up and shouts and screams mummy I don’t want to go to bed, get me out!

tried talking to him in the day, he won’t tell me if anything’s up. Clearly a sleep regression but I’m struggling to cope now, my mental health suffers anyway but I am crying for hours on end!

So he actually just stopped waking overnight one night.

he is still crying at bedtime for half hour but we can’t figure out why. He asks for a night light but then screams for it off, all a bit confusing it’s like a protest of bedtime.

I found if I pop in and out it actually makes it worse! X

For those of you who moved to a bed, did anyone do this whilst your little one is already upset? I was planning on doing it when he was calmed down with sleep a bit, but last night he kept trying to climb out, he hasn’t managed to yet.

My 2.5 has always been a great sleeper and is now doing this too, we've now dropped the nap (well more he won't have it), which I think it's what they issue is as he's probably still tired. I'm now taking him in the car once or twive a week so he can have a nap some days. It's normalised now though after a few weeks. Hang in there, it's probably just a regression. Also if you're like us, we've been so busy during this Xmas period which has probably contribute alot.

I've heard to leave moving to a bed as late as possible, closer to 3 as they have better impulse control then

I’d stop popping in and out. I know people won’t like what I have to say but if you leave him, he will stop crying and go to sleep. It will be hard but after a few nights he will settle down.

Yes we did. We have a fold up side for the bed so she didn't roll out and it created a similar feel to the bed.

We made the move at 2 and our friends waited until 3 and had issues as they were more aware of the change.

At the point of making the change she never slept in her cot and she has started the night I her bed probably 90% of the time

@Rocknrollstar so the 2/3 nights we’ve now left him as popping in was hard As he got more angry! But he’s taking 2 hours to go off and is really being stubborn 😂

im having that debate if to put him in a bed, as when I mentioned it he loved the idea but hes a sensitive soul so not sure how it will go!

I’m really struggling tonight. He’s been crying for an hour tonight and just getting more angry when I pop in 😭

he’s thrown everything out of his cot including his duvet and pillow. I feel at such a loss now.

I don't understand why you don't just stay with him until he falls asleep, he's obviously getting himself really upset and then making it harder to fall asleep

You're a parent, there's no clocking off time. It's horrible just to leave him crying alone.

Thank you for your judgemental comment.

i am not just leaving him to cry, i am popping in and out to reassure him.

im not a cruel parent, i love my child. So you can leave this thread now thanks - i dont need people who are rude and unsupportive.

Is it reassuring him? If he's been crying for an hour and getting more angry?

I'm in the process of trying to get my daughter to sleep more in her bed overnight at the moment so I do get where you are but there are days when she is receptive and there are nights when she has been wake from 1 till 4 am and the only thing that's happening is she's getting more and more awake. Being up for the day from 1 am was not part of my plan so I had to adjust the plan and try again the next day.

Hi OP, ignore those posters. CIO is cruel, but the Ferber method is not, where you go in at specific times and gradually increase. Sleeping is important for babies, and also he is 2.5! These people are totally clueless so ignore them. As I said earlier I think it's a developmental/regression thing and part of them pushing their boundaries. Mine basically started with stopping his nap (which we did as it was pointless), then tried to do it at night as well, although obviously at night he has to sleep so that was non-negotiable. I can't be certain what is happening with your DC, but it's definitely common at this age. Hopefully others will have some useful advice. You could also try and reward chart and/or grow clock. I don't have s reward chart as such, but a piece of paper with pictures on it showing brushing teeth, getting changed into PJs, getting in the cot. Hope it resolves itself soon

Sorry also I'd add, choose a method and stick to that, consistency is key. So maybe bath, PJs, toothbrush, stories and bed. Maybe play some relaxing music during this time. Id also use a lamp so lighting is dim. Then tell him it's sleep until morning. If he cries, then go in shush him/pat him/cuddle him, then leave again. Repeat until he hopefully falls asleep.