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Hotel nanny? Would you feel safe leaving 1 year old?

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sunflowers365 · 22/12/2023 19:45

I am feeling pressurised into using a nanny service at the hotel we will be staying at soon so we can attend a dinner. It’s no kids allowed. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my 1 year old with a hotel nanny abroad. Am I being unreasonable to feel uncomfortable about this?

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TheZenOne22 · 22/12/2023 20:17

If the McCanns had used a nanny then it may have been a different case - totally different situation.

To OP! If you’re not feeling comfortable with it don’t do it. You wouldn’t be able to relax throughout the meal so wouldn’t be worth going.

Footprintsinthesand · 22/12/2023 20:18

I hired a babysitter for my wedding so the kids (one was a very young baby) could go to bed at a reasonable hour. But she was from a proper agency, was DBS checked and the only people in the hotel were the wedding guests. I don't think I would do it in an ordinary hotel and certainly not abroad

Winnipeggy · 22/12/2023 20:20

Nope, you can feel however you want about it. Do they give you a chance to see how your 1year old is with them? I can't imagine mine being happy about being left with a complete stranger but all babies are different.

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Stress101 · 22/12/2023 20:23

Nope. Wouldn't even enter my mind to leave my child with a stranger. Have a word with yourself.

Winnipeggy · 22/12/2023 20:24

Footprintsinthesand · 22/12/2023 20:18

I hired a babysitter for my wedding so the kids (one was a very young baby) could go to bed at a reasonable hour. But she was from a proper agency, was DBS checked and the only people in the hotel were the wedding guests. I don't think I would do it in an ordinary hotel and certainly not abroad

I can understand leaving a younger baby (as long as you're close by) - their needs are a little different. But my 1 year old is very wary of strangers and no dinner would be worth the anxiety I'd feel leaving her. Everyone has to do what works for them.

HellsBells67 · 22/12/2023 20:35

I would not be able to relax, even if they had glowing reviews and every safety check. Besides when ds was 1, I was pretty much in bed five minutes after him!

Don't be pressured into this if your instincts are against it op.

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MummyJ36 · 22/12/2023 20:37

Absolutely do not leave your child in a situation you are not comfortable with. I’ve had friends who have used hotel nannies and been perfectly happy but on a personal note I know I’d never be comfortable with this. Each to their own but always go with your instinct. Someone else’s desire for something does not trump your parental decisions.

SecondUsername4me · 22/12/2023 20:37

Nope. Either dh or I would stay with her, depending on which of us was closest to the event host.

Or, if we weren't making a holiday of the whole trip as a family, one of us would fly out to attend and the other would stay at home with dc.

Sherrystrull · 22/12/2023 20:42

Nope. My dc went to nursery and were looked after by family members from a young age (less than 1) but a stranger in a hotel is a firm no from me.

MsSquiz · 22/12/2023 20:57

We left our almost 3 year old and 6 month old with a babysitter when we were at a friend's wedding in Turkey. Both girls were fast asleep and it was for 3-4 hours. The babysitter ran the kids club and was in constant contact with us via WhatsApp.

We also left the girls with a babysitter twice when they were 3.5 and 15 months on holiday in corfu. Again, both times we put the girls to sleep and were only having dinner and a drink in the hotel and were no further than a 15 min walk away. The babysitters were the girls who ran kids club and our girls had been with them during the day twice during the holiday too

It's very much personal preference though, and I wouldn't judge anyone for using the service or choosing not to

Snugglemonkey · 22/12/2023 21:18

You are not being unreasonable. You do not feel comfortable and that should be respected. I would also never do this.

blackpanth · 22/12/2023 21:21

I wouldn't

ADHDQueen · 22/12/2023 21:23

No, of course not! Xmas Hmm

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sunflowers365 · 23/12/2023 20:02

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sunflowers365 · 23/12/2023 20:05

Thank you. I would do the same. Problem is the wedding dinner is no swaps i.e. once the dinner has started one parent has to stay out, you are not allowed to switch and do half and half each…

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Summerscoming23 · 23/12/2023 20:08

Not a chance !

Order room service once your wee one is in bed. Use the money you save on a childminder to get a bigger room

PTSDBarbiegirl · 23/12/2023 20:10

I couldn't consider that to be safe. You shouldn't go against your own judgement for the sake of a meal, just not worth the risk IMO.

Ascubudr · 23/12/2023 20:11

I used to work for an agency as a hotel nanny. It was fine sometimes the children took a little while to settle especially if jet lagged but generally responed well to books/ cuddles/songs etc. It was honestly fine.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 23/12/2023 20:12

sunflowers365 · 23/12/2023 20:05

Thank you. I would do the same. Problem is the wedding dinner is no swaps i.e. once the dinner has started one parent has to stay out, you are not allowed to switch and do half and half each…

Wow, this is ridiculous! I just wouldn't go, what a rubbish set up!

Maddy70 · 23/12/2023 20:23

I live in Spain my friend is a nanny in one of the hotels here. She is police checked and experienced. You ca. Leave vetwen courses (go to the loo! ) to check

BurbageBrook · 23/12/2023 20:33

I would never do this personally. Never be pressured into making any decision relating to your child's safety.

Emma543 · 23/12/2023 20:38

Not a chance!

Ineedanewsofa · 23/12/2023 20:42

We used the baby sitting service at centre parcs hotel once so we could go for dinner in the hotel (so same building) - DC was 9 months old and fast asleep when we left and was still fast asleep when we got back about 90 minutes later! The issue for me here is that you are being pressured to do something you aren’t comfortable with and that’s not acceptable

Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 23/12/2023 20:56

Nope. I wouldn't. Have a 3, 7 and 8 year old and I wouldn't leave them with a nanny I didn't know

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