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Can someone please tell me what is going on?

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Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 19:29

Hello fellow mumsnetters
I have a problem and I'm really really anxious

So today I was at work and my partner was at work, we both heard the doorbell ring and as I was on a call to a patient (wfh) I was unable to answer the door and so was my partner.

Anyway this evening I told him that 2 women came to the door and for him to check the CCTV camera and on the camera he seen that there was 3 women all smartly dressed, one was a driver and of them hopped out to come to our house. the driver then spun the car around while these women were waiting for us to answer the door.

they stood for a minute and then left. who on earth were they? social workers? undercover police? are they coming to take my son off me?
what?!

im really panicking
can someone please advise?

thank you :)

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NoisyDachshunddd · 20/12/2023 19:31

Don’t be ridiculous.

TheCurtainQueen · 20/12/2023 19:33

Are you serious? Probably Jehovah’s witnesses. Or someone trying to sell something.

Why would you jump to the conclusion that someone was coming to take your child? Is something going on?

clareykb · 20/12/2023 19:33

Highly unlikely to be social workers, I am one. We wouldn't have someone driving, would Highly unlikely to be 3 of us unless there is a huge back story and if we were very worried wouldnt have left and we would probably not be smartly dressed. Could they have been Mormons? They are usually smartly dressed.

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Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 19:42

Thanks guys
Honestly there is nothing going on, we did have social involved while I was pregnant but that was due to a HUGEEEE misunderstanding.

Case was closed and my son was born me and my partner yes we argue but it's never gotten to violence or nothing and my son is always in safe hands he's cared for and looked after and we both adore him so much!

My anxiety is absolutely sky high since I've been off sertraline

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Superscientist · 20/12/2023 20:02

Do you need to look at restarting the sertirline? If you anxiety has been this bad maybe you need a bit longer on it. I was on and off meds for years before admitting that symptoms and life are easier with the meds. There's no shame in needing medication for mental health

I would assume people try to sell something whether that was religion, a new conservatory or asking for charity donations

NerrSnerr · 20/12/2023 20:39

Having people come to your door who are probably Jehovahs witnesses, charity door knockers or someone at the wrong address but you just straight to having your child taken away suggests that there's a reason you're worried (how bad actually are the arguments?) or you're not well and probably need to speak to the GP

purpleme12 · 20/12/2023 20:42

To be fair, I can see why OP m might be paranoid if she says social have been in involved before.
Some things are harder to leave you.

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Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 22:54

Thanks guys for getting back to me
Just a bit of background about me sorry if I'm drip feeding

My partner and me have been together for 2 and a half years and we have a beautiful 15 month old boy together. My partner and me have had some pretty nasty arguments but they have never resulted in violence or anything. It's more us name calling each other which I know is bad but it's never gotten out of hand because if it had I would have ended it ages ago

My main concern is that these women that came to the door looked in a sense very authoritative and I guess my anxiety is making me think it's the social coming to take my son off me when I know it's irrational we've done nothing to ever harm our son or ourselves.

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Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 22:56

And also would charity knockers or religious people only come to my house? They didn't visit any other house as we seen this from the CCTV

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Theunamedcat · 20/12/2023 23:02

Did they have lanyards and badges?

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They were most likely jehovas witnesses they up their game near Christmas in my area telling us how commercial it all is etc etc

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Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 23:04

@Theunamedcat I couldn't see any badges on them however one was carrying a handbag that looked like it had documents in it

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purpleme12 · 20/12/2023 23:05

Ultimately none of us can tell you. No one has any way of knowing.
However if it's social workers I'm pretty sure you'd have had a call by now

idontlikealdi · 20/12/2023 23:10

Drunk after a work do and got out of over at the wrong door? I think you're extrapolating on past experience

SlB09 · 20/12/2023 23:10

No one can tell you for certain but one thing is true - social services wouldn't leave an at risk child and turn around and leave.

boomtickhouse · 21/12/2023 07:19

Samiibaby · 20/12/2023 22:54

Thanks guys for getting back to me
Just a bit of background about me sorry if I'm drip feeding

My partner and me have been together for 2 and a half years and we have a beautiful 15 month old boy together. My partner and me have had some pretty nasty arguments but they have never resulted in violence or anything. It's more us name calling each other which I know is bad but it's never gotten out of hand because if it had I would have ended it ages ago

My main concern is that these women that came to the door looked in a sense very authoritative and I guess my anxiety is making me think it's the social coming to take my son off me when I know it's irrational we've done nothing to ever harm our son or ourselves.

Are you minimising here?

Would your Neighbors be worried by these arguments? Would the children be telling someone at nursery about them?

I think you need to see this as a wake up call to sort your relationship out , or separate and provide a house without "nasty" name calling

WillowTit · 21/12/2023 07:23

name calling is awful, it is a bad upbringing for your dc

WillowTit · 21/12/2023 07:28

agree I think you need to see this as a wake up call to sort your relationship out , or separate and provide a house without "nasty" name calling

usernother · 21/12/2023 07:33

No one will be able to tell you on here. How could we possibly know who they were?

AllAroundMyCat · 21/12/2023 08:14

What an environment for a young child to be in.

Superscientist · 21/12/2023 12:31

I once had a random person pull up on my drive she was on the wrong road.

How long did they stay and did they look in windows to see if you were in and hiding to avoid answering the door? For officials trying to speak to you I would expect them to stay longer and look to work out if you were really not their and not avoiding them. People knocking for the reasons given in previous posts would give up quicker without trying to find you on the property.

Just something to watch for is that abuse doesn't begin and end with violence. My sister was in a domestic abuse situation no physical violence but her husband could fly up in such a rage. They split up when their child was 3 and at this age she was aware of the arguments and the threats of violence. Sort your relationship out now don't let things slide and not face the issues head on just because it doesn't get as extreme as violence

WhimsicalMoth · 21/12/2023 13:48

If there was genuinely no reason, not even a slight reason for me to think that social services would want to get involved with myself/ my child, then the thought would never even cross my mind. No matter how anxious I am.

purpleme12 · 21/12/2023 14:40

But OP has had involvement in the past from them she said. Giving OP the benefit of the doubt that there is no reason now for it, it can make you paranoid and anxious that it will happen

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