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Do I need to go back to the doctors?

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Brunette1901 · 19/12/2023 17:15

Got two lovely little darlings who are far from being little darlings at the moment. DD is 3.5 and DS is 22 months and while I feel his behaviour is very typical for his age his older sister spurs him on. Her behaviour is and always has been on another level. She’s has a very go go go energy about her. She goes to nursery 3 times a week and that helps to mellow her out but with it being Christmas holidays and she’s excited for Christmas its honestly another level of crazy and I don’t think I can handle it.

after the birth of my son I was diagnosed with OCD and have really struggled managing my emotions and it took about 6 months ago for me to stop having bad episodes and to start to get back to my old self and to start enjoying life. I don’t know if the stress of Christmas (and the stress of hosting………….) that is making me already on the edge but I can’t cope with these kids. I’m crying for the third day in a row because I just can’t handle them. Everywhere I turn there’s a catastrophe I’ve got to stop but can’t ever finish because suddenly my son is now throwing toys at the tv and oh god can’t pick them all up because now my daughter is drawing all over the walls with that pen I lost days ago. No amount of child proofing or toy rotation is fixing the issue they’re getting into everything and I only have so many shelves not that that matters DD has discovered she can carry little chairs or the sofa puffet to assist her in reaching everything I’ve tried to hide.
Im a mess and I’m not coping and I find myself thinking about running away or checking into a mental hospital because I’m so beyond exhausted and don’t want to go back down that dark road of where I was 6 months ago. I’m not sure what a doctor can do for me I’m not depressed and they’ve always said pills won’t work. Therapy worked but only in giving me coping mechanism that are no longer working with this other level of crazy from these kids. I feel overwhelmed and so hate my life right now. Going to the drs also feels like a bit of a cop out they can't help me babysit my kids. They’ll just give me a prescription that I’ll have to wait all day for DH to come home so I can go and get adding more stress to my life because the pharmacy takes hours to give you already prepared medicine.

DD won’t listen to me either she’s goes deaf and she won’t stay in time out she won’t listen or reason with me. When she’s at nursery she’s good but when she’s at home she just gets in this funny mood and will ignore me and do whatever she wants.

it feels like a viscous circle. The more ridiculous they get the more ridiculous I get. I don’t know what to do anymore.

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velvetoptions · 19/12/2023 17:16

you don’t mention a partner.

velvetoptions · 19/12/2023 17:18

are you a SAHM?

can you ramp up nursery?

your children sound very very normal to me, and what i dealt with with same age difference.

but whilst i found it stressful

kimchio · 19/12/2023 17:20

velvetoptions · 19/12/2023 17:16

you don’t mention a partner.

Yes she does

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WeeOrcadian · 19/12/2023 17:20

What are the consequences for bad behaviour and ignoring you?

kimchio · 19/12/2023 17:20

I’ll have to wait all day for DH to come home so I can go and get adding more stress to my life because the pharmacy takes hours to give you already prepared medicine. I don't understand this bit just go and take your kids?

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Brunette1901 · 19/12/2023 17:42

i wish I could but my pharmacy is in Asda and we just can’t take DD there anymore the amount of times I’ve lost her because she’s ran away. My children are very tall they can’t fit in the trolley together and I don’t have a double pram, so lots of “cants and don’t” I know which is why we made the decision to stop taking her to the shop. It’s too much effort and we don’t have the tools or could afford the tools to help us. But this isn’t my point really I could go in the evening I’m just saying getting pills which don’t help is an effort I can’t cope with. Everything feels ginormous at the moment and I feel way out of my depth. Wish it was easier than this don’t understand why it has to be so hard. DS is such a happy go with the flow calm boy and his sister is just so crazy and energetic it’s more than most people who visit can cope with too.

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Winnipeggy · 19/12/2023 17:57

Brunette1901 · 19/12/2023 17:42

i wish I could but my pharmacy is in Asda and we just can’t take DD there anymore the amount of times I’ve lost her because she’s ran away. My children are very tall they can’t fit in the trolley together and I don’t have a double pram, so lots of “cants and don’t” I know which is why we made the decision to stop taking her to the shop. It’s too much effort and we don’t have the tools or could afford the tools to help us. But this isn’t my point really I could go in the evening I’m just saying getting pills which don’t help is an effort I can’t cope with. Everything feels ginormous at the moment and I feel way out of my depth. Wish it was easier than this don’t understand why it has to be so hard. DS is such a happy go with the flow calm boy and his sister is just so crazy and energetic it’s more than most people who visit can cope with too.

I think if you need the pills then you can make the effort to go to the pharmacy once surely? Or yes get your husband to go. You need to prioritise yourself at least this much. It's just one trip. Do you have any other family that can help with the kids? It will calm down I promise, you're really in the thick of it at the moment but your oldest will be in school soon and things will seem a lot calmer

Weepingskies · 19/12/2023 18:12

Sounds very tricky - you have my sympathy and I know there are no easy solutions.

couple of thoughts:
are you sure you’re not depressed? You sound quite low and it may be worth going back to your GP so they can reassess.
there’s a fair bit of evidence that antidepressants (SSRIs) can help with OCD. Might be worth thinking about, another one to discuss with your doctor.

so yes, I think you probably should go and see your doctor, they might well be able to help (btw I’m a GP!)

tokesqueen · 19/12/2023 18:45

Get back to work.

velvetoptions · 19/12/2023 18:49

Brunette1901 · 19/12/2023 17:42

i wish I could but my pharmacy is in Asda and we just can’t take DD there anymore the amount of times I’ve lost her because she’s ran away. My children are very tall they can’t fit in the trolley together and I don’t have a double pram, so lots of “cants and don’t” I know which is why we made the decision to stop taking her to the shop. It’s too much effort and we don’t have the tools or could afford the tools to help us. But this isn’t my point really I could go in the evening I’m just saying getting pills which don’t help is an effort I can’t cope with. Everything feels ginormous at the moment and I feel way out of my depth. Wish it was easier than this don’t understand why it has to be so hard. DS is such a happy go with the flow calm boy and his sister is just so crazy and energetic it’s more than most people who visit can cope with too.

if a repeat prescription - very straightforward on nhs app to change to free delivery to home

Autumn1990 · 19/12/2023 18:55

You need a double buggy. One from Facebook marketplace such as out and about or city mini.
You can’t deal with two bolters simultaneously.
Honestly it’s a game changer and means you can go out so much more easily. One can walk and one can ride. Somewhere to put all the stuff you need as well.

My two are difficult (eldest has sn) and indoor activities can still be tricky

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