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Can I request full custody and supervised custody for child's father? How do I go about it?

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Namechangedworriedmama · 17/12/2023 20:54

Hi!

My ex is a pedophile. I caught him watching toddlers and called the police on him. They didn't find the evidence on his devices (he had deleted everything) and closed the case. SS closed the case too.
I was forced to go back because otherwise he could have applied for unsupervised custody according to police officer.

I caught him again trying to look for child sexual abuse images. He found nothing so the police couldn't do anything about it. We have a new social worker though. She is coming in a few days.
I'm terrified. How do I convince them this time?

I'm so scared of them closing the case so easily again.

I now have a couple video evidences: one of him admitting to watching illegal pornography and saying that if we were to separate he would only seek supervised custody in a contact centre. He was aware he was filmed.
Another one that he wasn't aware of where he describes the age and abuse of those children.

I don't know what these are worth with social services and when we go to court.
Do I have a chance to get full custody with him supervised? He makes a lot more money than me and it means I will be struggling with my son as a single mum so I don't know if they will allow me to.
My family lives abroad. I have no family or friends here. I'm no contact with the In laws that have been abusive to me for years.
Is it possible for me to apply to move abroad with my kid?

Thank you so much

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Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 17/12/2023 21:00

you can just stop contact and wait for him to apply to court for contact. You could apply yourself for a child arrangement order including prohibited steps but you'd need legal advice to explore how to do that effectively.

you can also move abroad but you'd need to apply to court for permission for that

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Namechangedworriedmama · 17/12/2023 21:09

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 17/12/2023 21:00

you can just stop contact and wait for him to apply to court for contact. You could apply yourself for a child arrangement order including prohibited steps but you'd need legal advice to explore how to do that effectively.

you can also move abroad but you'd need to apply to court for permission for that

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Thank you for your reply.

Do you know if court is likely to give me permission given the circumstances?

Does his video saying he won't have any unsupervised contact hold any value at all?

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unlikelychump · 17/12/2023 21:29

The police can find deleted images though, can't they?

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Namechangedworriedmama · 17/12/2023 21:34

unlikelychump · 17/12/2023 21:29

The police can find deleted images though, can't they?

They couldn't this time around for some reason
Police officer told me that in new devices it was harder, especially if he watches them through apps (he watched through Twitter and Discord) that are crypted or something along those lines.

It's also considerably more difficult to retrieve deleted cache apparently

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Rocksonabeach · 17/12/2023 21:40

You pass all the videos on towards the police, court, cafcass and ss and supply written signed evidence at date and times of what you saw him watching on what device and stick to the facts.

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Namechangedworriedmama · 18/12/2023 11:16

Rocksonabeach · 17/12/2023 21:40

You pass all the videos on towards the police, court, cafcass and ss and supply written signed evidence at date and times of what you saw him watching on what device and stick to the facts.

Thanks so much

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Namechangedworriedmama · 18/12/2023 17:43

Social worker is coming tomorrow to see both of us. Should I show her the evidence after the meeting by email or before? I can't say anything to her in front of him

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WorriedMum231 · 18/12/2023 17:47

Namechangedworriedmama · 18/12/2023 17:43

Social worker is coming tomorrow to see both of us. Should I show her the evidence after the meeting by email or before? I can't say anything to her in front of him

Does he still live with you? Can you take the kids to a woman’s refuge?

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Namechangedworriedmama · 18/12/2023 17:54

WorriedMum231 · 18/12/2023 17:47

Does he still live with you? Can you take the kids to a woman’s refuge?

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I was denied refuges unfortunately as there's no domestics on me

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Lougle · 18/12/2023 18:15

I don't think you can email that sort of stuff. You could email or pass a note or make a phonecall asking for a private chat.

User69611 · 18/12/2023 20:20

I’m so sorry, just want to say what an awful and scary situation and I really hope you get the outcome you need. Hope someone can advise but I would definitely show videos to SS or police in a way that is safe without him knowing.
so sorry you have no family or friends to support you and help with this. Does anyone here know an advice helpline which might offer some advice?

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