Struggling with toddler handhold needed

[bakewellbride]

Sorry for yet another thread over dd but I've been on my knees with her tonight and extremely tearful. She will not sleep and I'm so tired. She will sleep in my arms and that's it, it's like having a 3 day old baby again. Just awful. Is anyone around to chat / advise?

She has a cold but nothing too bad. She was in good spirits today. Just so clingy in the night. I hate having her in my bed because then it's just 24/7 of her literally and I need that physical break from her. She usually ends up in our bed if needed but I do not like it.

When she’s not ill you need to break the habit. It’s hell at the time and there will be resistance but you need to power through. Put into her bed and walk out- prep her first, explain that this is her room and big girls stay in their own bed. She comes into your room, return her to hers with little conversation.

Same here!! 18 month old keeps waking up screaming think he might be scared of the dark 🤷‍♀️ Takes ages to settle and its like hes scared of the dark. So tired even though im not at work this week. Dont know how ill handle work next week

I know you mean well but she is a tiny child still in a cot, that's completely age inappropriate and has made me feel miserable. Please think more carefully about posting in future.

@OatAndBee thanks so much. It's not easy! I admire you juggling all this and a job too, I'm a sahm.

No idea what you want from this post- if it works for you keep going but it sounded like it wasn’t

To be fair you didn’t specify an age and said toddler. That could mean anything from age 1-3 really. The poster gave advice. She wasn’t unkind

(Sorry thought id replied to someones comment regarding leaving to cry it out) you cant really reason with an 18 month old. Also if they are upset im gonna comfort them rather than walk away. Ive done the walk away on occasion as needed a break and went to make a hot drink. It doesnt work and i dont want him to be scared of his bed or think that noone will come to him

@Anonomom12 please don't comment on my thread unless you have any words of kindness to say to me. Thank you.

If you post on a public forum you’re going to get advice. You have no right to tell anyone to think more carefully about posting. You’ve been rude to 2 posters now and you never gave an age which is important.

@OatAndBee mine will be 2 in March so a bit older than yours and I have a 5 year old. Eldest was a breeze compared to this 😂 had a really, really rough first 11 months with dd then things got a bit better. Now they've got a bit worse again with her sleeping BUT it's still SO much better than those 11 months! I often remind myself of that! Yes I agree on not wanting them to be scared. Do you think you can put down and try to sleep now? Good luck

@bakewellbride we had just had a decent few months sleep wise, and this feels harder than the newborn days. Maybe because id got used to sleep again lol. He is currently asleep but im expecting him awake soonish so struggling to settle cause i dont want to sleep for 20 mins then be up again

@IckleSpickle hello, I've not been rude. I've said please and thank you. Ironically your post reads as very rude and has actually tipped me over into deleting / hiding this whole thread now. Instead of chatting to lovely @OatAndBee which I actually found helpful I will go back to being alone and tearful.

@OatAndBee good luck! Leaving this thread now x

There’s a thing called PM’s. Off you pop and yes you have been abrasive and rude to others who replied with advice.

@bakewellbride good luck too!

This post doesn’t make any sense. The person you seem to be replying to didn’t say anything even slightly bad.

You need to give more context to your situation before you reply bizarrely to people
who are being kind enough to offer advice.

If she's nearly two you can either do cry it out, or the Ferber method.

@IckleSpickle wasn't rude to you.
You've been a bit rude though. People are just giving you advice.

OP, just because you’ve said please and thank you doesn’t mean you haven’t been rude. You have! You didn’t specify an age and have been very dismissive about any advice given.

If she is nearly two you can stay in her room until she falls asleep and gradually reduce the time you are in her room. Or put her in the cot and sing nursery rhymes together until she falls asleep. This worked for me