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Exhausted… 3 week old won’t be put down

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sunsets07 · 10/12/2023 00:16

Hi everyone

DC is 3 weeks and refuses to be put down at day or night, she constantly cries / screams the place down whenever not holding her. I’m absolutely exhausted. I also have an 2 year old with additional needs to look after. Any advice?

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Restinggoddess · 10/12/2023 00:26

This must be exhausting
Have you mentioned it to health visitor or GP?
Does DC feed well?
what happens if someone else has the baby and you get time away ( I mean in another room etc)?
Do you have an idea - I believe you should trust your gut on these things - what might be troubling DC?
sorry to hear this and I hope you have someone around to help

SemperIdem · 10/12/2023 00:28

Have you tried a wrap/carrier? Baby would be close to you but you’d have your hands free.

PammieDooveOrangeJoof · 10/12/2023 00:28

The previous poster has asked some good questions.
Also do you have a sling you could use so you could get on with other stuff

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Wednesday6 · 10/12/2023 00:32

I think it's quite normal for babies this small. My dc was like this and we ended up co sleeping it was the only way I could get some sleep. It's not for everyone so I'm not suggesting. It will get better with time. Mine was a terrible sleeper and is still dependent on me to fall asleep.

PurpleChrayne · 10/12/2023 00:40

Get a stretchy wrap/sling. Game changer.

VivaVivaa · 10/12/2023 08:22

Some newborns are like this. My first born was, my second born wasn’t.

What support do you have locally in the way of a partner, friends and family?
If no local support, can finances stretch to paid help, eg a post partum doula?
Do you have a sling? Obviously doesn’t help overnight but makes the day a lot easier?
Is the 2 yo in any form of childcare?

TheIsleOfTheLost · 10/12/2023 09:50

Help is what you need. Plenty of babies don't want to be put down. They are completely helpless and once needed you to protect them from predators in the wild. They don't understand that we have moved into safe, warm houses and have food readily available.

Is your 2 year in any form of childcare and do you have help? Assuming you have a partner, can they hold the baby for a couple of hours after work so you can sleep? Does the baby like a sling? Can family or friends visit and hold so you can have a shower and cuppa? It is so intense now, but it will pass.

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sunsets07 · 10/12/2023 10:22

Thank you for all of your replies and advice! unfortunately I don’t really have any help. I don’t have a partner and honestly my family I hardly see unless I pop up there house with both children. Dc1 is starting childcare next month 3 hours a day so that will help, but I’m not really sure what to expect with the transition due to SEN. I will definitely invest in getting a sling or a carrier because this is relentless.
DD2 does have loads of wind and reflux which I should have mentioned on first post. I’ve been to the GP but they told me to feed less more often and wouldn’t prescribe anything to help due to her digestive system still being brand new so to speak. I’ve done everything possible to try and help the reflux and wind and luckily I’m seeing a bit of improvement with the wind. So I know this could well be why DD2 doesnt want to be away from me or put down ( we do have her Moses basket propped up a little so she’s more comfortable when she is put down and not flat on her back), just really needed some advice really on what I can do ❤️

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