To think you can’t ask for silent children?

[Bathsheeva]

Next door have SN children age between 5-8 roughly. They are constantly on the go banging, running, jumping, screaming, throwing toys at the wall etc etc. we never get a break from the noise. I had no idea they were SN but now I know I’m more sympathetic.
I have children age between 13-3 who can also be noisy, the teen especially! They play and run and shout like any other child. I do tell them to calm down and make sure it’s not constant though.
Next door have made a complaint about my children being loud and upsetting their children. I spoke to them to try and sort it amicably but they insisted on the fact I keep my children silent to avoid distress in their own children. I asked her if she will keep her children quiet too (to test her) but her response was that they’re allowed to make noise because they’re SN but as my children aren’t it’s considered anti social behaviour.
While I’m laughing my head off at the hypocrisy, surely people can’t be dense enough to think their children can disturb everyone else but everyone has to be silent for them? I have no experience of SN I know it’s not on purpose but surely respect works both ways regardless? Are the council even going to take her complaint seriously?

She's being unreasonable but is probably stressed out...I'd just ignore her

I'd tell her to improve her parenting because that's the only option she's got. Cheeky mare.

Thanks I did question if we were being bad neighbours but I know we haven’t done anything wrong so I shall ignore her and comply with any council report because I have nothing to hide.

No council in the land will follow up on children making noise, its not anti social behaviour. The only noise from children that strays into anti-social would be them knocking on someones door or standing outside their house and making noise. Children at home playing, even at night, isn't.

Your neighbour is talking bollocks.

This is from my council:(Surrey)

Noise complaints we cannot deal with

The following list outlines some of the common complaints we cannot deal with:

• household noise. For example, talking, slamming doors, walking/ running up and down stairs, children playing, flushing toilets and noise between flats where laminated floors have been installed.

Hang on, her children are noisy and she's asking for you to keep yourself quiet?? I'd reply by asking what's she's doing to keep hers quiet as well

Thanks for the reassurance the council won’t act on it. She doesn’t think she needs to keep her children quiet because of the SN but children without SN should know to be silent in her opinion, so she lets them run wild and refuses to keep them quiet in the early morning hours or late evening. I ignore the noise her children make because I’m not petty but her attitude has got my back up especially after the threat of reporting us. I’m tempted to let my children be even louder so she knows how it feels.

She sounds incredibly stressed. But that's not your problem.